Thread by @ADHDelaide

The problem about parents speaking about their autistic kids is that their target audience are other parents with autistic kids. They often don't consider how autistic people will feel hearning what people like Mark Rober have to say. It's about us, without us.

This has been said over and over again, by multiple #actuallyautistic people and yet those voices are still not heard by mainstream media. They don't care about truly helping us, just making it look like they care. Because they care more about their own feelings than our own.

Listening to autistic people means they have to dismantle decades of paternalistic abuse. They need to admit they did wrong (and that they're still doing wrong). They need to publicly admit ABA is abuse. It's a lot of work, so they'd rather keep their oppressive discourse.

Every time they get called out on it, they attack autistic adults and call us ungrateful and rude. They lash out and make themselves the poor victims who just wanted to help. We're portrayed as the bad, ungrateful ones.

We haven't forgotten about Sia and we never will.

We want allistic people to listen to our struggles.

We don't want them to take the behaviors THEY find annoying and try to correct them by force when they're natural, self-regulatory behaviors and they don't hurt anyone. That's not what we need, that's what they want.

Instead of changing society's perspective on what's socially acceptable, they're forcing autistic kids to imitate allistic behavior, repressing and hurting them in the process.

#AutismAcceptanceMonth is a joke. They don't want acceptance, they want to shape us to their image.

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