It's #EDSAwarenessMonth and I am one of those people who bizarrely feels like I don't 'deserve' a diagnosis because I don't have a full house of Beighton symptoms and I am not as badly off as my friends, even though I subluxate my shoulders every night, live in constant pain...
...and have been worried for the last five years that I may dislocate my jaw.
Right now I am fundraising for a woman in my city whom I have never met who is dying from the cascade of health issues that comes from being medically gaslighted for so long (even though she worked in a hospital before)...
...and having her government (GEMS) medical aid cover prescription medicine, but not supplements; and she is dangerously low on iron, but they don't pay for that. They will pay for her pain medication. A SASSA grant is not enough to live on if you need supplements to live.
So, as things stand now, Gafsa will die sooner rather than later, leaving her father and teenage daughter.
You can quibble as much as you want about politics; I just don't want people to die from poverty. And this is dying from poverty.
She's been discharged from hospital, incontinent, with 35% lung function and ulcerative colitis, and I KNOW that money could have prevented it from getting this bad so early in her life.
But there's also this: the years it took her to be believed.
My estimate of what it would take for her to live a lot more comfortably for a good deal longer? Approx. $280 per month. Because that's over R4,000, and it would buy occasional visits from a caregiver to help her bathe and tidy up, AND some supplements, AND incontinencewear.
The South African government should be sponsoring its incapacitated citizens, and ESPECIALLY its former employees, with amounts like this, if their lives depend on it. And hers does. She can only type with ONE FINGER now.
I have Gafsa's permission to share anything and everything about her condition, because even if it is too late to save her, perhaps at least it can help someone else.
This is Gafsa in hospital a few days after being admitted. Dark circles beneath her eyes show iron deficiency.
Gafsa is in a lot of pain. Here's a swollen ankle and foot.
The thing is, though, I am kind of tired of having people suffer and die and become poster girls and boys for awareness campaigns about what killed them. Like Jason, who died a year ago from malignant neuroleptic syndrome following a medical error.
This is not the only common-but-rarely-dianosed condition on my list for the training plan I hope to present to government along with other members of the Western Cape Network on Disability.
While not all autistic people have #EhlersDanlos Syndrome (EDS) and not everyone with EDS is autistic, it should be standard practice to screen people with the one diagnosis for the other.
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SUICIDE RISK: 3 6-year-old Autistic guy in Denver, Colarado. He's being evicted and he can't cope. He has nowhere to go. Couldn't earn enough for rent, couldn't find a place to stay. Who should he contact please? It's urgent.
That's 36, not 6.
I'm not American, but I have known him for many years, then lost contact. I now appear to be the only person left he's talking to. I said the @TheArcUS and @NationalADAPT may be able to help but I don't know if they do crisis help. Who should he contact? It's urgent.
Campaign starts TODAY: #AllowAACinTherapy. It's aimed at doctors, psychologists and other clinical professionals, and at the institutions that empower them to disempower disabled people. I have seriously had enough of this nonsense from them.
People with communication disabilities should not be expected to make appointments using a telephone. You should not have to register as a Deaf person to be allowed to use AAC.
When they speak about disabled children having "challenging behaviour", what does "challenging" mean? Why do they use THAT word? (Not a sarcastic question.) Do they believe that the child is "challenging" them like a drunk person in a bar challenges another guy to fight? Or what?
Or are they projecting the challenges (difficulties) they have in understanding or coping with a child's behaviour onto the child? Like "I'm out of money and it's a challenging situation to be in." So, the OTHER person, not the child, is the one feeling like it's a "challenge"?
There's a webinar coming up with a bunch of 'autism experts', about dealing with autistic children. A bevy of white guys presenting, incl. an autistic vet; and one brown man... And on the TOP of the list of topics is "challenging behaviour".
Some social skills could be explicitly taught so that people don't have to take so long to figure them out. Like this--this could be explicitly taught:
From my perspective, respect is a LOT more important than politeness. Politeness should stem from respect. And there are many times, I understand, that it is needed to just save your life, regardless of respect. It's used to de-escalate, and that's OK.
But...
I don't know why so many people are laughing at this. Oh yes, wait, I think I may know... It's because they're not autistic, and they don't know how to deal with someone who is trying her level best to make a rational case for something, because logic isn't important to them.
It's like Mr Thompson, who led the marching band at my school. I told him I wanted to be in the band. He laughed and said I can't be in the band. I asked why. He said, as though I was asking a ridiculous thing, "Girls can't be in the band." I asked why. HE WOULD NOT TELL ME.
But sure, AUTISTIC people are the ones with the broken brains. 🙄
The desire for logical, reasonable explanations is met with laughter by the Holy Wholesome Norrrmal People. Because logic is a deficit... or something.