1. What people refer to as ‘personality disorder’ in terms of ‘emotional dysregulation’ is interesting. Rather than dysregulation, I’ve noticed a lot of people appear to have a highly sensitive, finely tuned reception to other people’s emotional communication. Not everyone of >
2. course, that would be a massive generalisation. But a lot of people can sense or have intuition of when something feels wrong, or a persons mood is good or bad. Much is likely to have come from early childhood experiences where this skill kept some people safe. It’s less of >
3. a mystical power, more of a supernatural skill that has been developed. But it doesn’t mean that the emotional communication your highly sensitive instrument can be read or interpreted accurately. The emotional data given by the other person when learning the skills as a >
4. child may have come from a very different place to the person giving the emotional data as an adult. Not every person who gives criticism will be putting you down, being abusive etc. The other issue is that however you feel about yourself getting in the way too. So if you >
5. feel unloveable, or of little worth, then all the fine tuning can be seen through those lenses too. The thing that most people miss is that there is such a wealth of information in the sensitive instrument that some people develop. It can be used in ways that can give an >
6. advantage. I find it useful in some forms of consultancy, when emotional data is useful and helps me understand situations better in an organisation. If it’s a personal situation, or presses painful buttons that are currently raw, it is still helpful but the interpretation >
7. can be less reliable, and takes more thought. It’s easier if there is that buffer there. This may seem like a bit of a random thread, but I wonder sometimes at the way ‘personality disorder’ gets pathologised and how things that are different and that have the potential to >
8. be a positive thing, or even a superpower, if nurtured. I think I’m extra aware of this atm, on so many different levels. It applies to us as #LXPs if we work in this way, it applies to the working relationships we have, where we are often infantilised, >
9. left out of decisions, workstreams, left out of social interactions or friendships at work. It would be easy to think that is very personal, but in the #LXP Research Study, this theme came out over and over again. It’s also something that needs to be better understood >
10. because it isn’t written about much, there’s not much research out there on it - who expects crazy people with a #BPD diagnosis to work, and if they do, surely it’s normal to treat them differently to other people? Anyway, today I’ve been thinking about it, and it hurts.
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