Thread by @RedReality4

Orgasm. (THREAD)

There I said it.

You might think your wife or girlfriend doesn't like or want sex - but what if you are part of the problem?

"No - I'm different, I tell her I want it to be good for her!"

All you are doing is adding to her pressure and frustration.

Why is Noone talking about this?

Guys talk about sex. Guys watch porn. Girls do too, but if a guy has sex shame it is worse for a girl. And unless she's a slut (who likely has no problem with having an orgasm), that hot, healthy, normal girl you married might not know this stuff

You are the man, you are the Alpha - so you can kick her to the curb in favor of the next perfect combo of hot, shy, non-slutty, genetically perfect freak in the sheets / lady in the streets (good luck)

OR

You can do your job!

Note:

Men are engineered to work under pressure.

Women don't like pressure.

The cave man left his wife in the cave to quietly nurse the baby while he went out to spear the Saber tooth tiger.

Hint - if you add pressure, you will get a worse outcome.

Just Google "what percent of women have vaginal orgasms" or "do women have vaginal orgasm"

Pick an article from a reputable source - like WebMD, or Health Journal, or whatever.

Seriously - go read about it.

Some women struggle with "getting there" and especially under pressure

Society has become hyper sexualized. Pornhub, Instagram, MTV, Everywhere - your girl doesn't want to let you down...

So she acts, pretends, you get frustrated. And she goes through the motions. You conclude she is the problem, you add pressure. She concludes she is the problem.

Try this instead:

Take a few days to a week or more off from sex and pressure. Focus on your Mission. Be great, fun, funny. No fresh baggage in your relationship.

Take her on a date, and talk about whatever. Then at some point say "hey - I want to talk about our sex life"

If you do this and lose your cool at any point, this will backfire. You have to be strong frame, upbeat, positive.

So I was reading an article about women and orgasms - I never realized that only like 20% of women actually orgasm during sex... And I was wondering about you...

Get your phone out and show her the article... "it was a dude talking about it on Twitter - but heres the article"

Remember she wants to be wanted

She hates to be needed

If you are trying to lead this into sex, it will backfire - your goal is to understand her, listen

So ask how it is for her

Ask if she has any preferences

Make eye contact (not too much don't make it wierd)

Make listening sounds and say listening words : really? Wow! Huh... Nodding, etc

Take it slow!

Some women might need you to text them the link and process the info

Remember - you are playing long game... No pressure. Rome wasn't built in a day.

From here you can shock her. Instead of rushing home to bone her right after dinner, just thank her for taking about it - tell her you want to be able to talk with her about that stuff, and drop it

Text her the article, and just go back to having fun... Let her suggest sex that night, you just go back to focused on your mission. Wait a couple days.

More than anything, when it is time for sex, be the leader! Use your hands, communicate more.

Talking dirty isn't really talking dirty, it starts with "I like that" or "that feels so good" or whatever.

Let things evolve - but don't put her on center stage during sex... Meaning "okay - now it is your turn, I will now make it good for you!" that is pressure!

Instead, let her make it good for you, and let her please you - that will do more to get her ready than you shining the spotlight on her and starting the timer.

The only way you lose this is if you get pissed off and make her feel like a failure.

If it doesn't work, try again!

I'm not a pro at coaching - and not a woman.

Some accounts that helped me figure this out are :

@polarityperfect
@guideforlovers
@beamanforreal
@alpharivelino

If you don't figure this out with your wife now, you may never! Be a man and a leader!

You got this!

And on the other side of this is the best life. Just remember when you get pissed or feel rejected, or like this isn't working - use that to fuel your pursuit of your mission.

Your woman isn't your mission.
Your life is, who you are becoming. What you are building or hunting...