Thread by @RedReality4

Your long term relationship will be set up one of three ways:

1. You are in control, she wants to please you above all else. She can't get enough sex.
2. Back and forth, cat and mouse, almost competing for control.
3. She is in control. Sex is your reward for decoding her needs.

Her greatest desire, she desperately wants you in control, to submit to you.

This takes patience. You have to be willing to sacrifice sex for a week in exchange for sex anytime you want.

Your mission and frame must be bullet proof. You have to be able to take it or leave it.

You better value your own time, because if you don't, and she thinks you are available whenever she wants, she won't be.

She wants to feel special when you take a break from your mission to give her the business...

She will flash you in public, start dressing up in lingerie...

The pickup artist understands that if he needs the girls number, or seems desperate to take her home, he will fail.

I like following pick up guys because it reminds me of that attitude that doesn't care about outcome.

You wouldn't get pissed at a girl at the bar for saying "I like you, and I might want to have sex with you, but not tonight."

But if your girl says that, lots of guys get pissed off and go to the "I'm done" attitude.

This works sometimes, but it adds PRESSURE to sex.

Pressuring a woman to have sex with you is like the ultimate deterant.

She has pressure to pay bills, clean her house, pressure at work or from her friends, if she has pressure from you - you are doing it WRONG.

Now, sex with you is a chore to check off her list.

When you become a chore to be checked off the to do list, she will use sex to manage your mood. She will have as little sex as she has to to keep things moving - free making a minimum payment on her credit card.

She is not gaining positive energy from sex, it drains her energy.

Her having an orgasm does not give her energy.

She could have an orgasm, and the sex could be great - but she still feels that PRESSURE.

You want it AGAIN and that is so draining for her.

You are like a friend always needing something. So she avoids but tries to act into you.

For anyone - having to act sucks.

She wants to be able to just be - and running mood control / being your pressure relief valve is such a drain.

To counter this, lots of red pill guys use the threat of other women to keep their girl competing for their attention using sex.

Pressuring her to give you sex or you will go with one of your other options will only work in very early stage relationships, or with low value, low self esteem women who don't believe they have other options.

Healthy, hot, emotionally fit women will say get lost within weeks.

This is the move of guys who have gotten good at pickup game, but never figured out how to lead in a relationship.

Want more sex? Stop adding pressure.

Learn the balance of WANTING, but not needing.

I want more followers on Twitter. I don't care if you actually follow me.

I want to ski with my buddy when he's in town. If it doesn't work out, I'm busy doing me so I'm fine.

I want to bang my wife every which way, but I sincerely don't care if it's today or tomorrow, or when.

You have to have stuff you are excited about working on besides Sex. You stuff. Stuff she respects.

Mountain biking
Golf
Cars
Gym
Twitter
Real estate
Entrepreneurship
Spending time with kids
Books
Leadership
Investing
Crypto
Your job
Whatever

Your Mission!

Hint - if you are married & tight on money or controlling her spend, and spending money on hobbies (like golf) she will see you as a selfish jerk who doesn't value her.

This stuff can't just be hobbies - it has to be your mission.

She will want to see if she can distract you...

Tell her you want her...

Smack her on the ass and tell her she looks good

Tell her you have ideas about what you wanna do to her

And then go get to work on your mission

Soon instead of feeling pressure - she will crave your DESIRE

She wants desperately to give herself to you

Don't play hard to get, or she will return the favor and your relationship will slip into #2 mode, (you are both competing for control.)

If you want her, but are focused on your mission and she tries to distract you - go get it!

Use all that focus and drive, and lead her in sex

You want to reward the behavior that you want her to duplicate.

So when she uses sex to get your attention - GIVE IT TO HER HARD AND FAST!

And then get back to work.

And keep wanting, but not needing her.

You could say "Dang babe I would be so down to do that again!"

Or "I loved that, let me know when you're ready, I am so excited to do you again "

But you are stating a want, not adding any pressure to actually do it.

You aren't asking her for permission to have sex again, just stating your desire while getting back to work on your mission

You can't fake this... She will feel it.

You also have to level up in other ways:

Clean
Showered
Brushed teeth
Go to gym (doesn't matter she will respect you for going)
You are DRIVEN
HAPPY not moody

Moody feels like pressure

Also: this can ebb and flow. You can spend several weeks setting this up, and one time you getting pissed off can reset the clock.

Just relax - I've messed this up a hundred times, just be confident, and focus on getting back to leading, and you will get more and better sex!

It has taken me years to figure this all out. Some men think this is normal. If that is you - no worries.

If this helps - I'm happy!

Since figuring this out a lot of crazy things have happened:

I now have a lot more sex.

Sometimes my wife will want it 3-4 times in a day.

At least 8-10 times a week.

Amazing quality of sex.

She is coming to me, locking the door (we have kids), getting naked... Etc.

She is more adventurous

Sex gives us both more energy! Not less...

If this thread means anything, or intrigues you - TRY IT! It works!

If it doesn't work you are doing it wrong - usually expecting it to work in 2-3 days...

It will usually work faster for married people than for people in a relationship because it takes longer for her to notice

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This post is the essence of why I'm building an account.

You can stay in the relationship you have now, and make it everything you ever hoped for!