I want to talk about how misogyny is often framed as edgy jokes. I want to talk about how this guy is comparing battered women to dogs in an animal shelter and mocking how traumatized and easy to manipulate they are as a result. I want to talk about why men think this is funny.
I want to talk about how the internet is foaming at the mouth for this kind of content. How men dive into the replies to participate like starving sharks diving onto a steak.
I want to talk about how tossing out lazy, bottom of the barrel, vitriolic misogyny online is always done in the key of “king willing to say what we’re all thinking,” and that it’s a common part of the discourse among young men, and especially among progressive or leftist men.
I want to talk about how even the men who know that comparing battered women to dogs is wrong can’t quite bring themselves to say it, and how they’re ostracized and dismissed for the lowest of low effort attempts.
I want to talk about why we call it the old boys club when it’s very clearly alive and well among the young. I want to talk about how people say there’s less misogyny, when what they mean is that it’s slightly less institutional, but twice as insidious. They hate us, but funnier.
How the fuck can anyone read this and tell us it’s not fair to be angry at men. How.
It’s worth noting that in the day since I posted the original tweet, it’s gained 500 more likes, because this isn’t just some dark corner of the internet. It’s literally just your average dude who thinks dehumanizing women is fucking hilarious. It’s you who are broken, not us.
And you wonder why we don’t trust you.

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