Thread by @wisdomcounselin

Belief System Session: Your relationship is not the problem

Every problem has a solution, if it doesn't have a solution then it is not a problem. Your relationship is not the problem. #UpgradeMastery

Diane, guess you are wondering when I say your relationship is not the problem

Yes, I said it and it the the truth and that is on period! But sincerely look at it, the relationship is not the problem and I will tell you why.

One of the things I share with clients about problem solving is that every problem has a solution, if it doesn't have a solution then it is not a problem.

Now, the first step to problem solving is "identify the problem", that is why doctors don't just go ahead to treat you without a diagnosis.

Even when clients come to me, I first take them through "Upgrade Diagnostic" to help us identify which of our bespoke service will fit into their life at this time. Diane, your relationship is not the problem, you are the problem.

In the ancient text, the Rabbi speaking when his disciples that asked him about the man who was born blind, that who sinned that the man was born blind? The Rabbi told them neither the man nor his parent sinned that he was born blind that God will be glorified in his life.

Now, many times people in a relationship have many challenges, from abuse (emotional, physical, verbal, financial, spiritual), to disrespect, yet they are still there. They forget that the relationship is not the problem but they have become their problem.

They have failed to realise that they are important, they are value, and worthy to be treated with honor and respect. Sadly, they keep trying to fix the relationship that is not the problem rather than them fixing themselves through Upgrade and BECOMING.

Diane, when I listen to people share their relationship challenges online I am taken aback how they still don't yet realise that the relationship they complain about is not the problem but themselves.

Have you seen people who will blame every other thing around themselves without taking responsibility for anything. Blame game players always lose. Adam and Eve tried it in the garden and you know how that ended for them.

Many times we are our own problem and when we upgrade we become our own solution. Sadly, some people know they should quit their relationship they know have turned into situationship yet they keep believing and hoping their partner change.

Well, some people just enjoying living in fools paradise when practical wisdom is available to them.

Three simple reasons your relationship is not the problem

1) your willingness to accept rubbish is disheartening

2) your being comfortable with abuse and adapting to it

3) you unwillingness to Upgrade and Become more

Decision is the ultimate power, the day you make the decision to stop entertaining rubbish and nonsense, is the day it ends. #DeepThinking

Until you get tired of being sick and tired, you will keep making excuses for other people's foolishness they do you Intentionally. #R4HL

Remember, morning is not always Dawn, whenever you wake up, that is your morning. Will today be your morning? @wisdomcounselin

When you don't identify the problem you keep fixing what is not the problem, while the problem persists and increases. - Osagie Alex

On the Upgrade side of life, we encourage our Upgrade Mastery Practitioners to always fix themselves because they may be the problem of their personal brands and businesses.

You are the problem not the relationship, fix yourself through Upgrade and Become, then watch the transformation that happens in your relationship.