Thread by @wisdomcounselin

Belief System Session: Tell yourself the truth about your relationship

Whatever you ignore doesn't fix itself. No relationship crashes without warning, many just don't see, tell, accept, and work with the truth. #UpgradeMastery

Diane, relationship is not for the weak

Diane, relationship is not for the weak hence if you don't have the energy for its demands then don't even start. Unfortunately some people have started and are in it already but now they are beginning to see things are not working but they simply can't tell themselves the truth.

Truth is truth, ageless and timeless, it really does not give a care who gets hurt. Truth hurts but hurts heal with time that is why it is always important you tell yourself the truth about your relationship, stop putting bandage on what requires surgery.

When you see some things, the worse thing you can do is ignore and act like it doesn't matter. What doesn't matter can soon become matters arising. Tell yourself the truth about your relationship, so at least you can fix it before it becomes too late.

In the ancient text, Samson could have spared himself from losing his hair and two eyes if only he had just told himself the truth about his relationship with Delilah.

For the record, Delilah contrary to popular opinion wasn't a prostitute, she just happened to love money, power and fame more than she loved Samson. Samson could have told himself the truth the moment Delilah was pressing on him to know the secret of his strength.

If you ever read Samson's story in the book of Judges chapter thirteen to sixteen you will discover that the first woman Samson had married also put same pressure on him to reveal the meaning of the riddle he told the young men who came for his wedding.

In fact she pressured him for four days none stop till Samson told her the meaning of the riddle. Samson failed to see the pattern.

Diane, "Once is a mistake, Twice is a choice, Thrice is a pattern". When things begin to go somehow in relationship you have ignored clues and patterns. People's behaviour are always saying something but you just refuse to tell yourself the truth.

They start to treat you with disrespect, disregard, dishonor, dishonesty, manipulation and abuse, making you lose Self-worth, Self-esteem, Self-care and you begin to accept that maybe you are the problem.

For some it may be that you are having hope that one day they will change, be better and you will live happily ever after.

Well, some people may never tell you it is over, they will just keep frustrating you till you can't take it anymore and you leave but you don't have to let it get to that point if you tell yourself the truth about your relationship.

Three simple ways to tell yourself the truth about your relationship

1) know when to seek professional help (counseling, therapy, coaching)

2) stop ignoring warning signs and red flags (ignoring never solved any problem)

3) work on becoming (sometimes it's not the person that needs to change, it is you that needs upgrade)

Tell yourself the truth about your relationship. When people say there is light at the end of the tunnel, just remember at the end of the tunnel is YOU, you are the LIGHT. #DeepThinking

Abuse, Hurts, Regrets, last longer when you refuse to tell yourself the truth about your relationship earlier. #R4HL

Truth hurts but hurts heal. Better to hurt yourself with the truth about your relationship than to comfort yourself with a lie. @wisdomcounselin

Love is not blind, we are the ones always wearing sunglasses and we become blind to the truth about our relationship. - Osagie Alex

On the Upgrade side of life, we encourage our Upgrade Mastery Practitioners to always tell themselves the truth about their relationships regarding their personal brands and businesses.

Sometimes what doesn't kill you doesn't make you stronger, it just weakens your resolve to fight. Please tell yourself the truth about your relationship and get help when necessary.