Thread by @wisdomcounselin

Belief System Session: How intimacy dies in relationship

Everyone craves intimacy, yet some hardly realise that they kill the intimacy they so desire without even knowing. #UpgradeMastery

Diane, it is funny how the same thing people desire and crave, they also kill and watch it die while they stand aside doing nothing. You cannot imagine how ironic that is, that what you want the most is what you pay attention to the least.

I realise that people want fairytale lifestyle with love, romance and relationship, yet they forget that even fairytale story are thought through and actually written down. There is nothing that works like work, so there is the work required for intimacy to become the norm.

You cannot be lazy and enjoy the reward of hard work. Every relationship you see working, both parties are playing their role effectively to see that it works otherwise intimacy dies. I will tell you how intimacy dies in relationship and how you can ensure yours doesn't die.

In the ancient text, David acclaimed by God a man after his own heart loved intimacy. David himself declared "one thing have I asked of the Lord, that will I seek, inquire for, and [insistently] require: that I may dwell in the house of the Lord [in His presence]

all the days of my life, to behold and gaze upon the beauty [the sweet attractiveness and the delightful loveliness] of the Lord and to meditate, consider, and inquire in His temple".

David was a man who cultivated intimacy with God, that even at one time he so danced when the ark of the the covenant was being brought back to the city of David, that he was naked and was even mocked by his own wife.

Truth is you will always lose yourself in whatever and whoever you have intimacy with.

Diane, people think intimacy is about cuddles, hugs, kisses, sex or what have you but truth is intimacy is all about connection, communication, commitment, consistency and understanding. When these are missing, intimacy is dieing.

You can't be intimate when you can't create the time for what intimacy requires. There are people in relationship who can only talk when there is good news to share but when things go south they are just there unable to express themselves.

How can you be in a relationship and your partner can't understand your silence? No one is naturally quiet even solitude is loud, but because intimacy is dieing silence is never truly understood.

Busyness and unavailability destroys intimacy and this is something that can be fixed with the right planning and goal setting.

Three simple things that kills intimacy in relationship

1) familiarity (see finish)

2) poor communication (words, action, deeds)

3) busyness (you have time for everything else except the one you are in relationship with)

While there are things that may kill intimacy, there are things you can do to keep intimacy alive and thriving. Do them. #DeepThinking

Depression, Devastation and Divorce are many times the end result when intimacy dies in a relationship. #R4HL

The power to kill and make alive the intimacy in your relationship is in your hand. To be or not to be, is entirely up to you. @wisdomcounselin

Intimacy in relationship rarely die a natural death, it is people who pull the plug then it dies. Don't kill the intimacy in your relationship. - Osagie Alex

On the Upgrade side of life, we encourage our Upgrade Mastery Practitioners to never kill the intimacy in relationships regarding their personal brands and businesses.

When you start to feel it like intimacy is dieing, then it is a sign to fix it before it becomes too late. It is neglect of time repair that always makes rebuilding necessary.