Today is my appa's birthday and of course I wished him good health & peace, expressing my love. He said something that shook me: "You've made me worthy of my life." 1/ #parenting
As someone who grew up with a yearning for approval from my father, this should have felt amazing. Strangely, it didn't. I mean it felt nice to hear, sure, but I felt no sense of achievement or pride or vindication. That, to me, is the true achievement here! 2/
It has taken years of therapy and living through endless struggles to realise what a good (albeit flawed) person I am - someone who never gives up & is always there for those who need me. That is enough. That should be enough. 3/
I've made a conscious effort in my parenting to make sure that my approval is not a factor in my son's desire to do (or not do) something. I'd like him to consult me, if needed, but the motivation should always come from within himself. Happiness comes from within. 4/
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