👀Lifeless Eyes👀: In my post Masters externship, my clinical supervisor taught me about the 'eyes'. Many people do not realise these eyes 👀 to be a red flag ⚡️ to stay away from these people. Why do the eyes of narcissists, sociopaths & psychopaths look 'lifeless'? #clues
‘Lifeless’ eyes can be a dissociative state, where a person completely shuts off from their True core Self, inner self identity & emotions. They direct their focus toward their outer environment, a person of interest, or a person of potential threat, devoid of an inner self
These personality types no longer feel typical emotions as this can remove feelings of fear, shame, trauma or vulnerability. Their brains are wired differently than yours. They are unable to label and identify their feelings, have no empathy and can be very dangerous #lessfear
These personality types typically observe the world through a lens of 'chaos' or 'disorder'. They do not feel like they are looking at the world/people from a 'safe' place. They create a vortex of 'dominance' & have a pattern of disrupted social communication & are highly
controlling. They have patterns of making others feel like they are exposed, vulnerable, unsafe & needing to be on the defence. Healthy people experience this 'chaos', bad 'vibes', &/or bad experiences when around them. That is because their psyche & thoughts are chaotic
& disordered, Look for this clue in people where you can 'see' a person who is operating behaviourally in a seemingly 'normal' manner, until they feel 'triggered' by the other person Watch them shut off/switch their emotion system & their eyes change by going lifeless or 'dead'
void of any 'sparkle'. This is often seen clearly seen in mugshots, photographs and/or described by clients in discussing their experiences with this type of person. The eyes truly are the window to the soul. Notice this clue and practice looking for it
It is about domination. This mechanism IS used often by narcissists, sociopaths & psychopaths who cannot 'be' vulnerable & typically vacillate between domination & victimhood, using a wide variety of manipulation tactics #theeyes #clues #redflags #narcissism #Mentalhealth
Look for the 'predatory stare' 🚩 It cuts through the air and will get your attention. It is a behaviour marked by an intense 'staring' that goes through you. You are an 'object' at this time, to be used by this person. Do not ignore this sign. It is a major red flag 🚩
Dangerous people tend to avoid natural eye contact, locking onto another persons gaze without breaking contact. This is anything but natural or 'normal'. It should cause a person to have an inner red flag moment, but for many people it doesn't 🚩
Looking for examples: 👇🏻
In each of these photos there is something qualitatively 'off' with each person. Learn to look for these clues to stay safer in life #staysafe
Look for the pattern across faces
If you have attention to detail you will see what I am pointing too
Far right example is a good one
Look and study the eyes and facial expressions
Here we have expressions that often confuse people. They are known as blended facial expressions, where the eyes and mouth do not match. There are different reasons for this.

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Why Are Autistic/ Neurodivergent Individuals More Vulnerable to Cults or toxic groups?

1. Vulnerability:
Autistic individuals face challenges in *social emotional* understanding, making them more susceptible to manipulation by toxic individuals, leaders, groups or cults.
2. Reading Social Cues:
Autistic individuals have a lower ability to detect *deception*. This means they might not recognize when they're being lied to or manipulated, a common tactic in cult/group recruitment. They also may misunderstand someone being genuinely nice to them.
They tend to take what people say at ‘face value’, making them easy prey for predators (group leaders). They have difficulties in reading faces/body language & ‘intention’. This makes them vulnerable to groomers, sexual abuse, predators &/or cult leaders &/or radical ideologies
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👺Narcissists/predators employ a tactic known as “memory holing” to manipulate and control their victims, a form of ‘gaslighting’. This can cause trauma and PTSD to the target.
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Here's how this process typically unfolds:

🔻Distortion of Reality: Narcissists perceive their reality through a *distorted* lens. They deny events, conversations, or promises ever happened. They also live untethered from reality and are often delusional
They are known to say, “That never happened,” or “You're imagining things,” even when the target has clear memories or documented evidence to the contrary. This is solely designed to make the victim question their own memory, reality and sanity.
🔻Selective Memory: Predators might acknowledge some events however they twist the details to suit their narrative. For instance, if a victim confronts a narcissist about a hurtful comment, the narcissist might claim they were joking or that the victim misunderstood, thereby altering the memory of the event. This causes confusion.
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Narcissistic abuse example: Laura and Mark

Laura met Mark at a professional conference Mark was charming, successful, and seemed incredibly attentive. He quickly swept Laura off her feet with grand gestures, constant communication, and an *apparent* deep interest in her life
This phase, often called “love bombing,”, made Laura feel like she was in a fairy tale. After all, he was her knight in shining armour, right?

The Shift:
🚩Isolation:
After moving in together, Mark started to subtly criticize Laura's friends and family, suggesting they didn't really care about her or were bad influences
Over time, Laura saw less of her friends and loved ones, becoming increasingly dependent on Mark. She had a history of being ‘co-dependent’. This was learned from her primary attachment with her father. He was narcissistically abusive towards her. It felt ‘normal’ to her.
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of certain psychological themes or archetypal symbols within a society or a group of individuals. Jung believed that the human psyche is connected on a deeper level, and when certain *ideas* thoughts words or symbols become charged with emotional energy,
they can spread through the collective unconscious of a community or even across cultures & groups, influencing people's thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. We observe this now on social media & in the news. These psychic epidemics can be positive or negative
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How do you tell if someone is a ‘Narcissist’? By their ‘behaviours’, regardless of who the person ‘says’ they are. Always go by behaviours. 1. Trolling 2. Mobbing, gossip & smear campaigns 3. Name calling 4. Narcissistic rage 5. Projection & gaslighting
6. False accusations 7. Withholding 8. Stalking 9. Passive Aggressive 10. Inability to resolve issue & move forward 11. Black & white thinking 12. Splitting 13. Threatening or violent Words 14. Sulking 15. Coercion 16. Highly controlling &/or a group ‘leader’ & control the group
17. Public humiliation (doxxing, cancellation) 18. A clear lack of boundaries and/or violation of other people’s boundaries 19. May be ‘fixated’ on revenge for perceived slights 20. The silent treatment 21. Using money as a weapon 22. Triangulation 23. Idealisation & demonisation
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Cult recruitment: In order for ‘cults’ to be successful they rely on ‘recruiting’ others. They target ‘vulnerable’ isolated, alone, neglected children or adults. For vulnerable people, #cults are very tempting because the cult provides love-Bombing #stage1
A sense of safety, promises of rewards friends & actual rewards. Who could possibly refuse? They typically use becoming more joyful, happy, obtaining bliss as a #promise Who wouldn’t want that? A new family? #Acceptance? Love? It’s a nice loving supportive environment initially
#stage2 Cults are now online. Recruitees may be constantly bombarded by cult jargon new #language new wording The group expects recruitees to divulge everything about Themselves. Those recruited usually have #epiphany of some sort which drives them further into the cult #stage3
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