Thread by @themultibeast

Men innately believe that we are able to alter our environment, circumstances, and situation through action

So we are concerned with the root causes of things, and communication is our tool to find out what to DO

Women don't have this underlying belief. Life happens TO them...

... so they are concerned not with root causes, but with effects

Communication is their tool to connect with others ABOUT those effects, to examine them, and exist more fully within them, not necessarily to understand them or find meaning in them

Men seek resolution in communication, the point is to end the interaction.

Women seek an extension of the connection they get from communication, ending it is the worst thing you can do

We communicate for different purposes

To bridge the gap, the best hack for men...

...is to pay attention almost solely to the emotions running through her while she communicates, and not so much her words

Use words only to tell her she's right for experiencing these emotions. Have loving physical communication. and don't rush the interaction.

When you drop everything to focus on her, communicate strength and safety w your body language, and provide limited words beyond affirmations of emotions, her feelings PASS

Often the pass into warm feelings of security

And she'll attribute that to YOU

That's leadership