Toxic shame is a killer
It has boys believing deep down that they're somehow bad people because they're driven by a desire for sex instead of what they're SUPPOSED to want (a long term relationship where they get deeply involved in her all of her emotions)
It has boys believing deep down that they're somehow bad people because they're driven by a desire for sex instead of what they're SUPPOSED to want (a long term relationship where they get deeply involved in her all of her emotions)
https://twitter.com/themultibeast/status/1333602636830969857
It needs to be widely understood that this shaming is what actually CREATES metoo men. Natural alphas and those with strong fathers will resist and be unashamed (and reap the rewards), but the majority of boys will listen to her words & believe they have something to hide
They go underground and get covert in their behavior, hide their sexual motives, feign interest in who she is as a person (which ironically leaves no room for them to actually connect with her). If any masculinity is toxic it's the "fake personality covering sexual frustration"
We got it all wrong. "toxic masculinity" isn’t the overtly sexual, the playfully dominant, or event the unapologetically perverted. It’s the opposite: the "nice" guys, the flower buyers, the complimenters, the ones who adjust their behavior based on what they think she wants...
in hopes of getting sex
These men are lust amoebas.
And boys turning out this way is a failure of fatherhood (often single motherhood)
Yes, we absolutely need to educate boys about the emotional dynamics involved for her so they can act responsibly...
These men are lust amoebas.
And boys turning out this way is a failure of fatherhood (often single motherhood)
Yes, we absolutely need to educate boys about the emotional dynamics involved for her so they can act responsibly...
but what they're getting instead is shame and conditioning and the beginnings of a long-term inability to be an emotional leader in an intimate relationship.
We accidentally threw out the seeds of male leadership with the misogyny bathwater.
We accidentally threw out the seeds of male leadership with the misogyny bathwater.
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