Thread by @usnehal

I was just reflecting on that this last day.

There is SO much shame in various cultures: healthcare (medicine, nursing), religion (Catholic, Muslim, Jewish), political (conservative or progressive/woke).

People who say “shame on you” are revealing they’ll a lot about selves.

https://twitter.com/jack_turban/status/1345932102479405056

If you shame others, is that your own internal wiring?

Thing is, if you allow shame to be your go to for others, you keep it alive internally. That is SO easily manipulated.

It is also the basis for ostracizing behaviors associated with bullying.

psycnet.apa.org/record/2009-07…

It is the lazy person’s way to express themselves in interpersonal interactions IMHO because most of us had shame instilled in us by culture, religion, family, education. It is why so many have #impostersyndrome which is really is about ego, not ethics or getting 💩 done.

Shame is a favorite go to in women’s groups who often define themselves as who is against them or by barriers, rather than by vision.

“There’s a place in Hell reserved for women who don’t support other women.”

That is a shaming statement. I used to agree with it. But, no.

Because, what American feminism does not tell you is how much of feminism is about exploiting other women along lines of privilege and access to the same patriarchy they fail against. Personally, as pro-woman as I am, it all requires a nuanced, pragmatic approach, IMHO.

In regards to causes to join, that shaming into joining is frequently used. Whether or not you are a “good person” is determined by joining it not. In/out group status is assigned. Language and talking points are controlled. Advocacy relies on narratives which invoke emotions.

We talk of “#empathy” but @paulbloomatyale is spot on that it makes us immoral. We are responding to emotions which often are there based on early childhood experiences (parents). Think of “bean dad” & what emotional disorders come from bad parenting. We should filter thru ethics