Thread by @themultibeast

The first mindf*ck we wrestle with when sh*t hits the fan is that for men, the answer to better relationships cannot be found by looking at the relationship, or even in looking at the person we’re with

Fact is that all our relationship issues have very little to do with either

Understanding that both women and children are naturally reflective beings, and their behavior is an outgrowth of our own, takes a while to settle in, to really get

Boys of the past 3 generations weren’t told we have that power. Conspiracy or not, this has been a cancer for us

Nature punishes men who look for anything in their relationships. That type of seeking and needing comes from childhood lack, and both women and children are scared by it

Fact is, no one cares what we need. No one owes us anything. Relationships aren’t “for” us (as receivers)

Women and children are fragile and can’t see beyond their own emotions and their own needs

Nature designed a protector for them, and that’s us

So stop talking about your “relationship”, get your body fit and learn to fight

Stop talking about “you’re needs” and make powerful moves with your money

Stop talking about “love languages” with a therapist, and practice mindfulness and mental toughness

Stop “communicating cause that’s the most important thing!” and master personal emotional control

Stop thinking about them so much and what they should or shouldn’t be doing, and go make a positive impact on your community

As you shore yourself up, weird things happen:

You REALLY don’t need to talk as much as you thought you did. I mean really

People become naturally attracted to you (this guy doesn’t “need anything.... I want that”)

All women get revealed for what they are: vulnerable, beautiful, fragile beings that we are uniquely qualified to look after, should we choose take them under our wing

When you see how pervasive their need for safety and validation is, even your mom becomes your daughter

And they all feel more safe the more you’re focused you are on yourself and the unique mission you have with your life

Really, it’s got nothing to do with them

And I have to say, if you’ve been able to get this far in your red pill journey, dodging the pitfalls of bitterness, resignation, and the clutches of the various manosphere grifters, it’s fucking bliss man...

You are you’re own everything. Think of that freedom!

You get fucking jacked every day and lift cities.

You make power moves with money, changing your life and the lives of those around you

You say yes or no based on whatever the fuck YOU want

You see femininity like all the other art that the universe left here for you: It’s beautiful, entertaining, nice to have around, you should take care of it.

When you’ve evolved yourself into a truly self-actualizing man (no corner cutting), with boundaries and some charm, “relationships” aren’t something you ever worry about. They take care of themselves.

So when you look at all of it, what is it?

It’s what you knew it was the whole time. What no mother, female teacher, girlfriend, wife, or weak man could have ever told you...

If you’re not always trying to be the best person you can be, you’re gonna have probbbbblems