Nope, this is a seriously stupid idea. #auspol dailytelegraph.com.au/news/nsw/nsw-p…
It's not just that this is unromantic, it's that it fundamentally misunderstands sexual relationships. Relationships are not transactions in which one person (a man) asks an other party (a woman) for sex, who then, reluctantly, agrees.
Relationships are spaces of mutual desire, lust, communication and ongoing negotiation.
Consent should be thought about in the same way. It is not a transaction. It's a mutual process requiring ongoing communication and sometimes even negotiation.
Consent should be thought about in the same way. It is not a transaction. It's a mutual process requiring ongoing communication and sometimes even negotiation.
An app like this cannot capture that. It treat sex like a commodified transaction, one which does not match the realities of how people's actual relationships work. It cannot deal with the complexities of sex.
Worse, it promotes the idea of sex being a commodified transaction.
Worse, it promotes the idea of sex being a commodified transaction.
In that way it could easily be used as a tool for perpetrators. What happens for example when someone who has agreed to do something but then decides they don't want to do it any more. In this case this app could be used against a victim.
Apps like this suggest that consent is a tick box exercise. All you need to do is get someone to sign the dotted line and then everyone's all in. It's not how relationships work.
Finally, one other important point, is that an app like this would either be developed by the Government or a big tech company. I do not trust either to hold onto data about my sex life. No thank you!
This has that big tech energy, which assumes an app can fix everything, written all over it. But an app can't fix sexual assault. That requires changes in our community at a grass roots level. Fuck this idea.
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