Uncomfortable truth: Women are not children, but to a man, a woman has more in common with a child than she does with a man

That is to say, the strategies & tactics he uses when working with children are going to produce better results with a woman than those he'd use with a man
She'll say "men and women are both just human beings" in a (near constant) effort to impress upon him her value beyond sex, but it's a moot point in the context of a relationship because it's about about what WORKS and what doesn't

And here's what works:
- Being very aware of her emotional condition

- Withholding certain information that will make her feel deeply unsafe

- Demonstrating that we have thought about her deeply and anticipated things that she may not have thought of

- Provide for her (safety, shelter, comfort)
- Withhold the vast majority of emotional displays that may subcommunicate weakness

- Make the vast majority of the decisions on what's going to happen next

- Give attention when great behavior is shown, withdraw it when bad behavior is shown
- Teach her things

- Demonstrated our solid, unlovable frame when she's experiencing an emotional storm (in kid terms, a "tantrum" or "meltdown")

- Demonstrate awareness of threats and dangers she may not see

- Provide structure and boundaries that inspire feelings of safety
All of these things are things that a good parent does for their child

And all of these produce good results if done for a woman

Even as she says "don't treat me like a child" she uses her FATHER as the example of how a man should treat her (if that relationship was healthy)
Her template is the one man on earth who gave her attention without wanting sex in return

This is what she wants: Acceptance, validation, safety, provisioning, care

But it's a hard truth that in her adult life, sex is the only way she can get this treatment from the masculine
And some women have a real problem with that

So they'll rebel, withhold sex, weaponize it, or treat it as a reward or a punishment

In doing so they are exercising their only real agency. Can you blame them?
Still the response should be the same as to a child

They are too inconsequential to knock you off your frame

You do you, continue your mission, live your life

You will not be held hostage by either a child or a woman
"She has first right of refusal on your sexuality, not sole custody"

Not surprisingly, when this is done, it has the same effect as with a child
And when the tantrum is over, and you are still there, having not budged, not compromised yourself, not gotten caught up in the emotion of it, taken nothing personally, only offered CONSTANT safety and love...

You've added more concrete to the foundation of the relationship
You've strengthened your own masculine frame which serves you as father, lover, husband, and leader of men

This is why emotional "storms", from both women and men should be regarded as GIFTS, special opportunities to exercise and express our true nature as men
She's not a child, but if you're wondering what to do, treating her like one is almost always a safe bet

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