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Sir Dickson

27 Jul, 13 tweets, 3 min read

@Mrpossidez

"But I love her" is the reason may of you are dying in toxicity. What do you think love is?

Like @Mrpossidez said, "true desire is beyond chemistry. I agree that there can be no profound romance without chemistry, but chemistry in itself is not love, it is not genuine desire.

it is just compatibility combined with an addictive attraction."

You can keep holding on to the dance of butterflies to determine the reality of your intimate relationship. It is always a question of whether you like your peace or not.

I don't believe you can only love one person. That is a Hollywood proposal that has been repeated too often for the feeble minded. Love is not blind. Love is intentional. Just as you intentionally choose whom tondate, you can intentionally quit.

Emotions blind and are unreliable

You can have feelings for as many people, love as many people but you choose whom to date if you are monoganous.

Relationship is about commitment not blind feelings. It is an intentional intimate assurance to be one with another in every plane. It is not behaving like mumu.

"I know she loves me. Na woman. You know as dem dey do"

I don't know. Stop making excuses for toxic people. When someone shows you whom they are, believe them. Stop assuming the existence of a love you cannot experience.

People move mad comfortably in your space because they know they can and that they would get away with it.

Unfortunately, many of you feed into the mindset that women are allowed to hit you, destroy your stuff while you onlook and walk away. BULLSHIT!

She is an adult. Treat her like an adult. Stop giving toxic people the privileges reserved for good women. You teach them there are no consequences for their actions and thus they move even more mad while expecting docility from you.

Teach her that actions have consequences.

In every sphere of human relationship, there is an acceptable code of conduct and youndont breach that.
- Arsene Wenger

If her behaviour is unacceptable. Give her a talking to, call out the bullshit. Make her jnownitbis unacceptable.

Quit toxic and abusive relationship

Importantly, have an abundance mindset.

Always have it at the back of your mind that while you put in your best, there are no guarantees. The relationship may fail and that is okay. Be ready to walk away when infidelity, abuse, toxicity and such intolerable cruelty creep in.

It is also okay if she walks away. Life is unscripted. Relationship has a 50/50 chance of working or failing.

What matters most is that you are not obsessed withnthe illusion your heart can only love that one person because it is a lie.

There are many lovable people out there.

Soul mate is a myth and LOML is just an euphemism for spouse. There is nobody created for another person.

Explore the abundance life has on offer for you and make a pick. Please be free in the liberty wherein Christ has made you free and be not entangled with yoke of bandage.

Peace, Love and Spaghetti 🍷

*You can't keep holding

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Sir Dickson

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What does that even mean? You think you deserve an applause. SMH

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"No matter what" only teaches women that their actions have no consequences and that is why with they are consistently violent.

You are not a gentleman for opting to be a mumu. If you can overpower somebody, there is no reason to allow them put you under the yoke of physical bandage because you think saving yourself makes you violent or a woman beater.

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