My yearly rant about Gandhigiri as I understand it - 1. It is not about giving roses to people running red lights. 2. One must have a clear ethical stand to defend. 3. Opposing party is seen as misinformed or wrongly motivated. 4. Method is -
a. talks to understand each other's
position.
b. Appraising them about injustice, harm and suffering caused by their actions
c. Highlighting moral, human and legal wrongness of their actions
d. Providing solutions and co-operation in implementing those solutions. Looking for a win-win 5. If this fails - satyagraha
i.e. non violent opposition to unjust rules. Not causing suffering to others or the uninvolved. No collateral damage. 6. Pushing opposition in a corner with gradual escalation techniques to shame them. 7. If they resort to violence - bear that violence at the cost of own life
8. Rinse and repeat till desired change is achieved.
Requires - crystal clear moral understanding and own actions, infinite patience, supreme courage to absorb violence, lack of hate or anger about opposition.
Except the Mahatma, this is an Everest climb for us mere mortals.
Not impossible. As he has shown himself. But excruciatingly difficult as it involves spotless moral and ethical behaviour by ourselves as primary requirement.
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"people don't quit a job, they quit a boss".
By similar extension can we say - " children don't hate studies, they are turned off by teachers/curriculum/exams, etc."?
Though there is some truth in both statements, they are not entirely true.
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In my clinic, I meet such bored, de-motivated, sad and sometimes very angry children everyday.
While some criticism about teaching methods, schools, curricula, etc. is valid, I am not going there..
My focus is on the change-able part that is under my control.
What can I do as a parent to help my child?
I can fill the deficiencies in present system for my child.
Some actionable points - 1. Be physically present with the child when they are studying. Sitting at the table with them, catching up on your reading helps. Use same medium as
Lectures (supported by multimedia) about curriculum topics delivered via internet on a custom locked internet access device (e.g. a tablet) is presently called Ed-Tech in India.
Such companies get massive valuations as well.
To make it sound real they throw in discussion forums. This may help kids pass our pathetic MCQ exams with average marks.
But this is no education.
For the first time in history Tokyo Olympics has taken mantal health issues to the podium.
Indian team has been no exception.
Here is my attempt to give you a glimpse of what affects a champion's mind.
I have worked as mental health coach for many sportspersons over last 2 decades.
Chess, TT, Lawn Tennis, Golf and occasional shuttler too.
Some of those have played at international level too.
So I have some insider information for you.
Read on -
For most people mental health is about anxiety, depression, suicide and the big names like bipolar and schizophrenia.
For performance most people are happy to believe that self confidence and persistence is all that is needed.
After a few months break, I did a home visit again.
This is my favourite part of work. Visiting a child in their home for assessment/consultation/intervention is one of the most rewarding part of my work as a child psychiatrist in India.
Read on..
Possibility of violence and self neglect are two commonest causes of home visit in my work.
I have been called to talk a child out of locked rooms, toilets, homes, etc. Sometimes I succeed.
What I see in clinic is a sanitized, made up version of family.
Even a planned home visit lets me into their real world and gives wealth of useful clinical information that can help the child and family.
Many parents want their kids to become doctors in India. Many kids also have similar dreams.
This thread can help you choose with better information about medicine and healthcare.
Read on...
Most children aspiring to be doctor talk medicine as -
Saving lives
Fighting disease
Giving access to healthcare to all people
Glamour
Finding pathbreaking ways of treatment
Money
Impressing friends and relatives
All honest answers. True.
Real life medicine is simple -
Working with ONE person at a time. A few or a lot everyday. Everyday of the year. All your working life.
It is intimate and emotional work irrespective of your clinical speciality.
For whatever reasons, "good touch-bad touch" has become buzzword with NGOs and Govt agencies.
They feel compelled to include "Good Touch" in every discussion about Childhood Sexual Abuse (CSA).
This is highly dangerous and may make children MORE vulnerable.
Reasons - 1. 85-95% CSA happens at home. From people depicted as "good touch" in various programs. 2. Abusers groom children for a considerable time before moving on with sexual assault. Grooming involves various techniques INCLUDING so called "good touch".