@mollistan@0x49fa98@sherylsandberg I personally think that most men who marry DO indeed marry older women. Because very few women attain the age of 45 having never been married;
However, think about the year you got married vs. 2016's numbers of unmarried women in their 30s. The paradigm you lived is ending;
@mollistan@0x49fa98@sherylsandberg Essentially, the extent to which women sleep around while delaying marriage for education, earning, and experiences and the number of women who do, has reached record highs
This is totally unprecedented (and a huge market for Lululemon!)
Women do not hit a Wall at 30 wherein the ghost of Pook or whatever whooshes into the unmarried girlboss fertility clinic and begins singing:
@mollistan@0x49fa98@sherylsandberg That would be funny, but actually, almost ALL women have married by 45 at least once. The proportion of nevermarried 45 year old women is remarkably stable over decades—about 10-15%.
Simp-ly: 90-85% of women have been getting married. However, look at the other slopes!
@mollistan@0x49fa98@sherylsandberg I offer that graph again with three others (and yes, the UK data is just like other OECD countries, but it's a prettier graph)
There are more unmarried women than ever, and they are older, fatter, and sluttier than ever. This is a fact.
@mollistan@0x49fa98@sherylsandberg As you can see from the fat graph, men are also pudgier than prior generational cohorts (and may I say, "It Must Be Jelly, 'Cause Jam Don't Shake Like That" in a more traditional US was clearly written approvingly about women, not men)
But—what else are they? sexually shut out:
@mollistan@0x49fa98@sherylsandberg You'll notice that not only is there a lopsided distribution of sex in the US (i.e. ever fewer men are having sex with ever more women in the ever lengthening period preceding ever later marriage), but male earnings have collapsed, sometimes to nothing, for about a *third* of men
Men have begun realizing in larger proportions that nearly no women set the price of sex at marriage when youngest, prettiest, sexiest. Money might be a pre-requisite, but how much?
@mollistan@0x49fa98@sherylsandberg Those men who can obtain sex without bothering with a job, do so. Those men who want to compete with other men for reasons of achievement beyond mere access to women, do so.
The great bulk of men are not, however, coke dealers/musicians or fintech founders/oil&gas execs.
@mollistan@0x49fa98@sherylsandberg The great bulk of men are unremarkable, normal men. This is axiomatically true. True of women too but in terms of sexual distribution in the now decade+ between turning 18 (age at sexual debut has been falling in the US) and marriage, most of these women will be passed around.
@mollistan@0x49fa98@sherylsandberg We know how men and women rate each pther and we know with whom most have sex (if at all). We can infer the reality: most women are sexual entertainment for a decade or more for a small number of men.
Aforementioned men at the top and bottom are fine with this. Are most men?
@mollistan@0x49fa98@sherylsandberg Ever larger proportions of men seem completely unmotivated to pursue education or produce economic surplus (something education helps with)
If you have read the preceding thread and can be honest; you know why:
The juice ain't worth the squeeze.
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Most anti-natalism (particularly from TRADS!) is the position that women should get married and have children—but not waste more than even ONE day of their youth on their husband than necessary to exercise fertility.
@0x49fa98 Secular feminists emphasize that women should be banging lots of dudes, then find a nice pliant provider— @sherylsandberg of Facebook put it this way in Lean In:
@0x49fa98@sherylsandberg Traditional Conservatives, like @DennisPrager assert that the 70% of no fault divorces initiated by women (Dennis, that's just like those 'elective abortions', btw—the woman wasn't abused in anyway, but she was...unhaaappy!) are no biggie!
Before @getswype fires me for always being on mute camera off in standup, let's talk about how Swype will enable the pseudonymous economy and Exit from legacy institutional control of your life.
Today when a business employs you, you are almost certainly a W-2 employee or 1099 contractor. Your real name, your emergency contacts (i.e. your spouse, your parents, your siblings), your face, phone number, home address—all of these are reported or become highly discoverable,
Furthermore, these things are now linked to you for people who are not even your employer. Anyone online who discovers this info can also find your employer with a little digging.
In the Before Times, we had phonebooks but did we have roving bands of cancellation fanatics?
The leverage the State—the one that failed on covid, the financial crisis, student debt, housing policy, infrastructure, endless foreign wars—has over you, is your life is enumerated in its currency; your labor, assets, transactions.
This is a shadow form of citizenship.
There are people from the EU who, if here on holiday for instance, can swipe their bank cards and pay US merchants dollars. There's a conversion from euros to dollars, bc the numbering systems depend on 'purchasing power parity' and govt buying and selling in FX markets.
A European who does equivalent labor for equivalent effort to an American historically has found that he does about 1.15 to 1.50x better in terms of prices. He might be significantly underpaid in total terms, though.
But his economic life, his holdings of 'wealth', are euros.
On snapchat's map, or via firsthand Afghan accounts we can see Kabul is peaceful and Afghan daily life goes on—only the airport was chaotic *bc of US promises to 'evac' everyone*
similarly, on
January 6th, most of DC, and the US writ large, was just business as usual. You can go back and see your credit card activity or texts or work emails and see what you were up to, lol. Outside of a few LARPers 'saving democracy' (some in the know, some useful idiots)—calm
Simply;
No one was ever going to 'overthrow the US govt' by breaking into a random Congressional office and tossing papers around. That's now how #Insurrection works. The US is 300MM+ people over 4 MM sq miles. It has a military with nukes lol. What a totally moronic proposal!
Decentralization of finance (including reduced reliance on the inflated US dollar), exit from the media-polity's fixation on the circus-politics of wokes via DAOs/pseudonymity, more homesteading, less renting, personal farming & manufacturing
While it's not strictly true that "America is just an idea" (cf. Ilhan Omar lol), the notion that Americans are a nation which embody an *archetype* is compelling
It's more than Faustian, it's something even more;
Conservatives understand porn's ills; photorealistic imagery of the sexual act and masturbation.
They understand it robs men of drive and respect for women, besides the rape & sex trafficking involved.
They find allies in Feminist on these grounds—what about casual sex? Harmless?
A litany of disposed sexual encounters is somehow *less* psyche & soul warping? Lmao.
Conservatives missed the boat on anti-porn crusades, just as on anti-prostitution and anti-abortion crusades, bc they surrended a long time ago on the fundamental issue of the "sexual default".
@HMDatMI wrote about the default in the context of #MeToo — the feeling of being 'raped' many women report is not accidental; neither male misunderstanding
But this is just a facet of the problem—Whatever mental damage porn provides, cheap sex does worse