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16 Oct, 16 tweets, 4 min read
The red flags of dating that seem romantic.
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1/ He insists on picking you up from your home because he is * a gentleman*.
2/ He insists on making all the choices. The venue/the food/the wine.
3/ Everyone at the restaurant seems to know him/ treat him like a friend.
4/ He wants to know ALL about YOU.
5/ There are SO MANY coincidences
6/ He likes all the same things
7/ He asks if you believe in fate, in soul mates. Whether you believe there is that ONE person who you’re meant to be with.
8/ Then he tells you how unlucky he’s been.
9/ And that all his previous relationships have been AWFUL
All his exes have cheated/been abusive/used him/spent all his money/ been *crazy*.
10/ But he feels a REAL connection with YOU
11/ And he can’t wait to see you again. Can you see him tomorrow?
12/ And he phones you as soon as you get home.
13/ To tell you he’s never felt this way before.
14/ And this must be fate
15/ But really it’s a massive massive massive red flag

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