Little nuggets of truth that no one teaches you and that you have to find out yourself.
A THREAD
A THREAD
People showing empathy aren’t necessarily empathic.
Some are able to approximate empathy.
It’s important to recognise the difference and to be aware that some convey it to manipulate and/or harm.
Some are able to approximate empathy.
It’s important to recognise the difference and to be aware that some convey it to manipulate and/or harm.
People who give to charity aren’t always charitable.
There are those who genuinely want to help others and then there are those who only do it so it reflects well on them.
Or because they want to be recognised for it.
There are those who genuinely want to help others and then there are those who only do it so it reflects well on them.
Or because they want to be recognised for it.
People who want to know everything about you aren’t always interested in you.
Sometimes they just want to store up information they can use later on.
Sometimes they just want to store up information they can use later on.
If someone tells you a secret or tells you something very personal about themselves, it should not pressurise you into reciprocating.
Often this is how manipulative people learn about what makes you vulnerable.
And often that *secret* they trust you with turns out to be a lie.
Often this is how manipulative people learn about what makes you vulnerable.
And often that *secret* they trust you with turns out to be a lie.
Often people won’t recognise abuse in other people if they too are guilty of the same.
This is really important in the case of #coercivecontrol as someone who is controlling won’t recognise or acknowledge it as an issue in them or others.
This is really important in the case of #coercivecontrol as someone who is controlling won’t recognise or acknowledge it as an issue in them or others.
People who accuse you of triggering them are manipulative.
It’s a variation on ‘ look what you made me do’.
It’s a variation on ‘ look what you made me do’.
People who expect you to excuse their abusive behaviour because they have been the subject of injustice, mistreatment, disability, disorder, adversity or disease.
No, you don’t have the right to treat people badly. Regardless of what you have been through.
No, you don’t have the right to treat people badly. Regardless of what you have been through.
Being made to feel guilty doesn’t mean you’ve done something wrong.
There are plenty of people who want you to take responsibility and the blame for THEIR actions.
There are plenty of people who want you to take responsibility and the blame for THEIR actions.
Don’t be pressured into reciprocating in kind.
Just because they’ve done something, it doesn’t mean you have to. Manipulative people like to do things you didn’t ask and then tell you that you owe them.
Only give what you’re willing to give with no expectation attached.
Just because they’ve done something, it doesn’t mean you have to. Manipulative people like to do things you didn’t ask and then tell you that you owe them.
Only give what you’re willing to give with no expectation attached.
Be wary of people who expect validation and/or applause for every little thing they do.
Being kind doesn’t need an audience.
Being kind doesn’t need an audience.
Beware the person who accuses you of being selfish.
Especially if they expect you to put their needs before your own.
Especially if they expect you to put their needs before your own.
If someone tells you they would love you/ love you more/like you etc etc IF ONLY….
It’s never ever going to be just ‘ if only’…
It’s never ever going to be just ‘ if only’…
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