Then I realize who's my 2nd biggest loss, my lovely aunt, my 2nd mama..
I mention that she's my 2nd mom, not only bcs she is my aunt, but also bcs I learn so many things from her.. How to smile through pain, how to face our barrier, etc
She lost her 1st son, my special needs brother, in 2005, she never recover ever since.
Her husband cheat on her, that bastard guy whom I really wanna punch in the face.
She held her family 'til her last breath.
It's 3 years ago and the pain remains the same.
For those who have experiences in losing important people in their life will know, time won't heal. Never.
My cousin is extremely smart, she is a badass. And I believe that this is God puts the show for my aunt. She is very proud of her daughter. 😊
Me? I'm fine. I can comfy myself. 😊
And I'm proud.
10 minutes later, my sister called me telling that my aunt's gone. She and my mom was still on the way, too late.
I remember what my father told me when I was crying, "Putra, nangis lagi? Diam, Bapak gak suka anak Bapak pake nangis-nangis".
So, my grief's always quiet, including this one.
We are still dating at that time and she will always ask, "mana sih Put dia? Bawalah ke rumah, Tante mau ketemu." I smiled, and teasing back my aunt saying, "apasih Taaan", and we laugh.
Oiya, Tate is how we (me and my bro-sis) call our aunt from our mother. So her nickname is Tate Naek or Tate Kalideres.
My 2nd mother.
We all need to do that, stay insane.
Then, it's up to us, whether we wanna screw things up or we wanna do good, better things in our life.
Why? Because then I can have my moment. My moment to imagine the person that leave me earlier smile from me. I can picture my dad smile from above, and I told my cousin that she can do the same, by doing things that will make my aunt proud.
Night.