I found myself in the strange position of playing Agony Aunt during a long phone call this morning, but after speaking, I felt the issue is one that a lot of young couples will benefit from.
Take note that I've been married for just 7 years now…
A young friend of mine got married just before this pandemic.
Now he's having a serious quarrel with his wife. Can't give full details here for privacy reasons, but as I mentioned to him, and he gave leave, I'd like to talk about the key thing I think is the issue.
C has been living by himself pretty much since he left his parents' when he went to university.
He matriculated 12 years ago now, which is more than enough time for him to have gotten used to certain patterns of behaviour.
There aren't many things that display the shortermism of @NigeriaGov than this NIPOST kerfufle.
It's just the logical continuation of various schemes to extract money from a dwindling formal sector in order to continue funding the hedonistic lifestyles of our elite.
Think about it.
In Lagos, #Nigeria's "most successful" state, an association of thugs virtually ran ride-hailing companies out of the market, because of avarice, and because they couldn't compete. But hey, state capture...
I've heard murmurs that the failure to complete 2 raillines that would unleash the state's productivity is because of interests such as these.
We've seen the drama surrounding #Nigeria's most successful telecoms firm, accused of treason, all in a bid to shake them down.
As @elnathan_john says, “You can’t write satire for Nigeria, the country will always top your creativity.”
I feel a bit of deliciously hilarious irony when I see headlines about the man who illegally warmed the seat at @officialEFCC for a long time, Ibrahim Magu.
For Magu, I feel zero sympathies, and to some extent, even enjoyed the drama.
The Magu drama is a solid example of the abuse of power to settle scores, so there is a need to speak out against what is happening to Magu because if anything, the principle of enlightened self-interest means that even a bad actor like Magu should have his rights protected.
The girl I married, a Yoruba girl, was quite unaware of the war and how intense it was until the first time she visited my parents and saw my father's fence. byrslf.co/my-fathers-fen…
When she got back to Lagos, she asked her mother about it...
@Naijapikin12 Her mother, who was 12 when the war broke out was completely unaware that there was a war.
What she confirmed was that some of her childhood friends disappeared for 4 years, then some returned to Lagos, others didn't, but for the most, they didn't talk about what happened.
@Naijapikin12 What I took from that long discussion, was that to them the whole war business was completely abstract. They had the sort of distant relationship with it that many of us in these parts have with #BokoHaram, minus the 24-hour newscycle that constantly reminds us that it exists.
You see, the fact that up to 80% of our policemen are handbags to our low quality elite ensures that those policemen exist to serve the whims and caprices of said elite. premiumtimesng.com/news/more-news…
53 years ago today, the military governor of the Eastern Region of #Nigeria, Colonel Emeka Ojukwu, declared the region as the independent Republic of #Biafra.
Most of the existing history will tell you that he took this action unilaterally, but that is incorrect.
4 days earlier, a consultative assembly made up of people in the 11 provinces of the Eastern region had by a majority voted to break away from #Nigeria following @NigeriaGov's reneging on the Aburi Accord of 5/1/1967, and the creation of 3 states out of the East on 5/5/1967.
The move to divert #COVIDー19 donations to #budget2020 is rather shortsighted if you think about it, but here we are, and it is all as a result of government laziness and it shows that all the talk of wanting to diversify the economy is nonsense.
The numbers bear this out, #Nigeria's economy is already diversified.
Oil is 7.32% of GDP.
Agric is 21.2%.
Industry outside oil is 18.5%.
Services are 52%.
I've seen a lot of commentary about the crowds at banks in Lagos today, and while it is truly tragic as this will almost definitely lead to a huge spike in cases of the disease here, there should be a bit of time taken to understand what went down.
First, we live in a cash society. Truth is that @cenbank's recent policies have all but killed the much-vaunted #OperationCashless.
I've talked about this recently, so should it surprise anyone that many people made a run for the banks?
The recent arrest of @MubarakBala has brought a lot of recrimination on social media, has put a lot of Muslims in #Nigeria on the defensive, and has, again, brought up the accusation of religious fanaticism.
FTR, I do not agree that anyone should die for blasphemy, and the Holy Quran seems to agree that the way to deal with blasphemy is to shun such people until they begin to talk of other things, and not to kill them.
About 20 years ago I used to live at 6/23 Nnobi Street, Kilo, Surulere.
At the time, it was a nice place, with the landlord in the upstairs flat facing the road, me at the back upstairs, Idowu downstairs in the flat below me, and Franca Fashions, downstairs, facing the road.
Some people whose advise I cherish have taken issue with my choosing to align with @realDonaldTrump and begin calling the pandemic the #WuhanCoronaVirus. I understand the concerns, and yes, being reactionary goes against many of the values I hold onto.
But, history has shown that there are certain people who only understand fire for fire, even if your own fire is weaker, that is what they respect.
The Chinese are one of such.
They initially tried to do a PR blitz claiming that it was the US that was the origin of the virus.
That failed, so what are they now doing?
They are turning on "defenceless Africans" as they know that to a large extent our broke governments a) do not care about their people, and b) are only concerned about what they can get in terms of handouts, so will look the other way.
In 1999, #Nigeria organised the u20 World Cup. The organisation was done entirely by the FG, and Nigeria ’99 is on record as probably the worst ever @FIFAcom competition. It led to loads of changes in the way FIFA ‘helps’ host countries.
10 years later, we were, for some reason, awarded the right to host the u17 World Cup.
When it became evident that the LOC was slacking, state governments in some state govs stepped in, and #Nigeria 2009 ended up being more successful in some areas than it was in others.