Thread by @DrOlusesan

STRANGE BEDFELLOWS
Marriages barely work, not for other reasons, but for SELFISHNESS. All newly married ladies I had privilege to interview in the last few years confessed they were scared they made a wrong choice, to the point of thinking about absconding, in the first 2 years.

Men may not contemplate absconding, but may start seeking a new companionship. Every thinking that makes it hard to concede grounds in dating, in relationships, is self-centered. Since love has become a relativity, I've often encouraged singles to seek selfless men, above love.

At a wedding, the bride was farther away, taking pictures with friends, while some groom friends were waiting for her to come join them, with her husband for photographs. The person the groom sent to ask the bride to come, returned saying she's busy taking pictures with friends.

While the guest didn't mind waiting for the bride to finish, seeing that she has so many people dragging her for photographs, the groom hysterically started barking orders at one of the bridesmaid, "what nonsense photographs is she taking? Tell her to meet me here, right now!"

The horrendous message wasnt delivered. Then he went berserk in d bride's direction, until I jumped in his path, "oga, calm down! Calm down!" And he continued ranting, I'm the head, she must obey me." I was laughing in my head, 'where did u people get this stupid idea from?' 🤣

Me now thinking and smiling, "Oga, you are the head because of photographs?" 🤣
The bride got mad too and couldn't hide her disdain for long. I began to wonder if it's possible to divorce a man on a wedding day, because if I were in her shoes, that de-she was a complete put off!

Gents, "man as the head" isnt in the context of master-servant relationship. Its a principle of FIRST AMONG EQUAL. That you're leading is a privilege. Adopt a sensible leadership style. A 'servant leader' attitude will attract you more respect and more leadership concessions.

To be clear, settling down in a relationship with a partner isn't for the immatured. Its a journey you embark on, conscientiously. It takes a heart willing to forgive. Sometimes, when I'm right, I say sorry for the sake of peace, since there's no trophy for proving one is right.

The truth is, there are no two persons that are compatible, without a fracturable uniqueness. The breakup forces have greater effect now, due to d companionship we find in smartphones. There's that person who is available to chat, when your offline life looks like its crumbling.

A primary reason why people get into marriages to find a huge amount of horror, which makes them want to quit is because those in it create misleading impressions, that all the expectations they entered marriage with are usually met. Haq haq haq, 🤣
Prepare for disappointments.