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Well, herein lies the problem, and this historical concern leads a lot of men to push back against affirmative consent. All or none of your encounters might have been consensual, you can’t be 100% sure if you didn’t confirm consent. That’s why this is so important. 
In practice, affirmative consent has nuance as all interpersonal interactions do. It might look or sound different based on depth of relationship. It’s not intended to be a “gotcha,” it’s meant to ensure both parties are willing participants, and change the norm of *assumption.*
Affirmative consent means both participants. Often we frame the discussion as men seeking consent from women because normatively, men are more often the propositional party based on Hetero-societal expectations: on men to be aggressors, and of men that they are entitled to sex.
The historical oppression and sexual degradation of women, the uneven power dynamic between men and women, and the statistical reality that they are significantly more likely to be victims of sexual assault, also lend to the framing of consent as “from women.”
So yes, it makes sense for men especially to think critically about their past sexual encounters, but affirmative consent is really just the concept of making sure that no person feels forced to have sex with another person. It’s literally the least we can do for one another.
