If someone feels lack in their own life, then someone else's success may be felt as if it's something taken away or now unavailable to them. That the 'pie' is small & not enough for everyone to have a slice or as much as they wanted. This can leave them feeling envious.
The response can be to feel envious of THEIR perception of the other person's success or what they think they have. Envious attacks towards others can be subtle, in the form of questioning their choices or what they are doing. This is to destroy, attack or diminish their efforts.
If that is destroyed then the other doesnt 'have' that success. In the same way as saying 'if I can't have it neither can they'. An envious attack happens as a reaction & we can be on the receiving end of one in a split second & feel attacked, thinking we've done something wrong.
If you feel 'attacked' or you're being questioned, pause and think 'is this coming from someone's envy? and so is this an envious attack on me or my work or my success?'
If we don't stop to think how is this a reflection of other person who is doing the attacking, we can take in these envious 'darts' as part of us & internalise them as a reflection of our own lack. #envy#enviousattacks#projections#microaggressions
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For all 'BAME' organisations, organisations who state they work with 'BAME' communities and/or organisations/networks for 'BAME' people, one of the most powerful ways to acknowledge the lived experiences of oppression & dynamic of being 'othered' is to stop using the term 'BAME'.
The term 'BAME' is oppressive itself & reflects a projected identity onto minoritised communities instead of its true dynamic which is of minoritising, othering & oppressing Black & Brown people. For minoritised groups to use the term 'BAME' is to repeat internalised oppression.
Instead being 'minoritised' is a reflection of the relationship between the oppressors and oppressed. Something being done to 1 group by another. Whereas 'minority' reflects an identity of 1 group, ignoring any relationship with those doing the labelling. #WorkingWithinDiversity
I invite @BACP to share the Governance process of Motions & Resolutions - what the vetting process & criteria is for a Motion or Resolution to make it eligible for voting on - so how Board made decisions. This transparency would support understanding of why some are/not included.
It's important for all members to know that Motions/Resolutions have to comply with Governance/Charity regulation to be eligible, rather than @BACP Board subjectivity. However separate to that are the @BACP responses, which is a reflection of the Board/organisational position.
It's important to understand that a Motion/Resolution being eligible for voting on, doesn't automatically mean that the org/Board is supportive of it. That's where their response comes in - and how we understand IF they are supportive of it or not. It's why our Votes Matter!
There are so many problems & implications with this @BACP Motion. Along with many already mentioned: 1) this motion fundamentally changes the professional standard across the organisation - what does MAPS have to say about it? 2) it undermines BACP's own accredited courses (1)
3) it wipes out a huge % of members 'work' & what they have been trained to do, according to PS 4) it means some Board members are not fit to practice LT - as some qualified to L4 - so how can they support this motion, justify being on the Board or say representing members??(2)
5) it oppresses & eliminates any value of equality, equity & social justice - not all can access PG training. Privilege in action. 6) it creates & reinforces elitism in the profession. 7) it fundamentally sits in complete opposition to the @BACP strategy of social justice!!! (3)
Delivering another workshop tomorrow on Working withIN Diversity. So pleased that many counselling services, counsellors and organisations are open to learning about intersectionality, identity & power dynamics in therapeutic spaces, process and relationships #counselling#CPD
I love delivering training. Today is all about #workingwithindiversity and exploring the identity of counsellors & clients in the counselling room and relationship, especially when working with clients from ethnic minority & marginalised communities #counselling#CPD
So pleased to be able to bring my workshop - Working withIN diversity - to another cohort of counsellors. Exploring identity, intersectionality, power, privilege & oppression. #workingwithindiversity#intersectionality#counselling
Exploring positions of oppression and power. Something which exists in the counselling/therapeutic professions & practice. Can be experienced as microaggressions, criticising or dismissing an 'other's' experiences, work, success, projects or progress. Professional envy is real!
Our afternoon discussion - what impact do you think #intersectionality might have on the counselling process, therapeutic relationship and presenting problem? #counselling#identity
Looking forward to delivering this one-day workshop/training to a national counselling service today! #counselling#therapy#training
When we say 'working with', what we are actually doing and being in, is a Relationship. So both my idenity and the identity of the other person are present and in relationship with one another #relationships#intersectionality#diversity
In #counselling it's important we understand, explore and reflect on our own and our client's intersectionality, and the relationship dynamic created between the two. Great discussion in our morning session addressing those systems of oppression and our #intersectionality.