No , I didn’t say that, you must be mistaken. I would NEVER say that. Tell me when I have EVER said that.
Gaslighting is:
Yes you said that, I heard the words come out of your mouth. I can’t believe you can’t remember that you said that.
Gaslighting is:
I’m not lying, why would you say I was lying, unless YOU were the one lying and you are projecting that onto me?
Gaslighting is:
Of course I was lying, you didn’t honestly believe that I meant what I said, did you? How stupid are you?
Gaslighting is:
Of course it’s not true. It’s a line. I used that line to get you to sleep with me. Of course I never meant it. No one who says that means it. How could you not know that?
Gaslighting is:
If you’ve got a problem with me, it’s because I’m showing you aspects of yourself you don’t like.
Gaslighting is:
No, I’m not going to discuss that with you, that’s in the past and you need to stop dwelling on what’s happened and focus on THE NOW.
Gaslighting is:
Can’t you take a joke? Why do you always see an insult when one wasn’t intended? It’s a joke, a bit of banter. You need to learn to chill out and stop being such a victim.
Gaslighting is:
No, I didn’t leave the lights on. Why would I leave the lights on? It must have been you. You’re always doing things and then forgetting you’ve done them. You’re starting to lose it.
Gaslighting is:
Why are you asking me if I’m having an affair? Is it because YOU’RE having an affair? You are, aren’t you? And you think I am guilty of what you’re doing.
Gaslighting is:
A seed that is sown by a manipulator who WANTS you to doubt.
Gaslighting is:
Are you going to believe your lying eyes, or what I tell you?
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There are men who PROUDLY proclaim they would never, ever hit a woman. Men who will say they have been brought up properly and that any man who raises a hand to a woman is the lowest of the low.
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They would never hit a woman.
But they see nothing wrong in betraying her trust by having affairs and then lying to her or gaslighting her into believing she is paranoid for believing he could cheat. I mean, what’s wrong with her that she can’t trust him?!?!?
They would never hit a woman.
But they see nothing wrong in making her feel worthless. Eroding her self esteem by constantly talking about other women and their attributes, asking her why she isn’t more like them, or how she could be more like them - if only she lost weight etc.
What enables abusers?
In what kind of eco system does a perpetrator thrive?
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The abuser’s mindset is helped by the ecosystem they inhabit. This includes the people around them, the society they are part of and the punitive systems that are in place to hold them accountable.
1. The Abuser’s Mindset
Abusers feel entitled.
They feel deserving of special treatment.
They demand that their needs are met.
Above and beyond all else.
Woe betide anyone who doesn’t comply.
A lot of women get in touch to ask me about #coercivecontrol and come to the conclusion that their partner is controlling, but not abusive enough that they want to leave.
So when is the right time to leave?
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Is it when he calls you an ugly bitch the first time?
Or do you wait for him to call you it again?
Or do you wait until he has so completely undermined your sense of self worth that you don’t think you can leave?
Is it when he says that no one will love you like he does?
Or do you wait until he says that no one else COULD love you.