Thread by @TaniaAMarshall

Narcissistic Rage: We are in an epidemic of ‘Narcissism’. Most people are so used to it, they don’t know when it’s happening to them. Males & females can be ‘Narcs’ & the vast majority of my clients had no idea. Most Narcs are ‘Jekyll & Hyde’ & hide under the cover of ‘good’

‘Narcs’ use similar strategies when confronted or in communication. They are often “triggered, respond with rapid speech, do not listen, are very angry, combative & reactive. They work hard On: #1. their ‘image’ #2. Being charming #3.Keeping ‘Secrets’ #4. using people to A.

Do their dirty work B. Smear & lie about you, turn your family members, friends colleagues & peers against you. They love to pit others against each other. 5: they rarely, if ever, apologise, often make excuses for their bad behaviours, gossip & are highly divisive & controlling

They have hard wired behaviours that are extremely difficult to change. Most people think of men as narcissists. This couldn’t be further from the truth. Many females are! Where will you find a narcissist? Where you would least expect to find them Do they have their own language?

Yes. They have to be in power or control over others. It’s never enough for them. The same person will be found with their hands in many different jars, controlling the narrative. They are fueled by anger & do their utmost to present to others as the opposite.

Now, more than ever there are more & more narcissists & these behaviors can be seen in social media. Many people are shocked when they find out a high profile non-profit is run by a Narc, Many org’s. that ‘look’ good are run by a Narc(s) They lack self awareness & crave attention

There is always a distinctive lack of respect, gratitude &/or thankfulness on the part of the ‘Narc’ for those that help them. Along with a lack of gratitude, there is a lack of thankfulness & respect & manners, when triggered. What to do? 1. Learn everything you can about Narcs

2. Learn the red flags 3. Learn how to respond/ not respond 4. Learn how to disengage 5. Stay away from any person that shows red flags 6. Have strong healthy boundaries 7. Confront them if necessary 8. Record everything 9. Use your recordings when they smear you

10. Teach your children NOT to be ‘kind’ but to be “wise as a serpent” warriors. Thank you @peterhyatt Teach them boundaries. Teach them what to look for in a friend, a boss, a partner. Narc’s go after ‘Kind’ vulnerable hurting people with few boundaries of their own. They are

Dangerous. They go for your jobs, your friends, your colleagues, your loved ones, your reputation, your…anything…& they feel justified in their actions because they are full of contempt. Learn self defence, choose your friends wisely, know your enemy & read The ‘Art of War’

👀 4 jealousy, contempt, controlling, high anxiety, argumentative, too ‘nice’ & charming, anger, manipulative, 0-100 in 5 secs, ‘snapping’, gossip, divide & conquer, <empathy & <apologising, all about “me”, <boundaries, inability to accept “no”, passive aggressive power over