Thread by @TaniaAMarshall

🔥 How to have a better life: KNOW the 6 DARK red flags 🚩 of toxic people & stay away from them: 🔥1. Constant Drama 🎭 those that create, spread or are complicit in gossip, lies, manipulation, deception & gaslighting. Many people are unconsciously addicted to drama due to toxic

Childhood/parents, TV, SM, MSM, government. Be honest with yourself and ask “why am I doing or allowing this?” 🔥2. NARCISSISM: The levels of narcissism have reached epidemic proportions in society. Many people think this is ‘normal’. It’s not. It’s unhealthy & dysfunctional

Notice how the conversation goes back to them. Notice how the subject topic is switched back to them. Notice how it’s all about them. Notice how discussions & conversations go back to them. Notice how they ‘fish’ for compliments. Notice how they hate/envious of others success

They are only concerned with ‘self’ only. They are not team/group players (unless they can get something for themselves), cannot communicate properly, cannot mediate or negotiate, are inflexible (my way or the highway), are always right & you are wrong (delusional), manipulate

Gaslight, project, distort, twist, exaggerate or minimise, deceive and lie. In other words, they are dangerous to you & your #mentalhealth They live in their own distorted mind/psyche, which is their ‘reality’ Healthy communication is impossible They are destructive #Mentalhealth

Harmful, divisive, selfish, angry people stuck in childhood developmental stages. They are socially & emotionally stunted. This is a ‘clinical’ level of narcissism. If you don’t feel good around this person, are confused, anxious or stressed, ask yourself “why”? #ToxicAttraction

If you are Already journaling what you said & the other person said, you have your answer. Getting out or away is paramount to your health 🔥3. A pattern of White lies, distortions, twisting, mistruths, manipulation, deception, exaggerations as a constant #pathological pattern

This pattern may be covert or overt. They lie or deceive even when they don’t have to lie 👀 The basis of what they say may be real but they grossly exaggerate or minimise. They may not be a menace to society per se, but they’ll be a menace to YOU

your life, your friends, family, coworkers, reputation, you name it. 🔥4. How YOU feel after interacting with them. Do they build you up? Do they support you? Do they talk about others in positive constructive ways? Are they always hating on others, judging, moralising, preaching

Or policing you? This is narcissism. The psychological ‘need’ to ‘control’ others thoughts, behaviors, actions, ‘police’ their speech, complain about others, be in ‘victim mode’ IS pathological #narcissism The ‘need’ to always be right &

the “it’s everybody else’s fault” is pathological. There is no two-way street. It’s one way. Their way. It is a ‘relational’ problem about control & power over YOU. Thus is why they cannot answer a simple question without raging 😤 This is seen in individuals, groups & entire

Societies. If you have been in a pattern of being with #narcissists, it’s time to ask yourself, “How & when did this pattern start?” “Why do I keep repeating it?” “Do I want to do the work to stop this pattern?” You can break the cycle. These relationships stunt your growth as

🔥5. They never apologise, ever. In pathological narcissism, this is often seen upon getting caught by YOU, police, law, work, for something they did. They always have an excuse. Their excuses are non sensical, involve deflecting blame, accusing others with no accountability

They are unable to apologise for their actions, even when caught & actual evidence is presented to them. They will then fabricate another story or narrative or say they had the right to do x, y, z to you 🔥6. A lack of boundaries. Harmful people are ‘harmful’ because they lack

Boundaries, don’t care, &/or have never been told no &/or have gotten away with lying 🤥 & bad behaviours. If YOU don’t have boundaries, YOU will attract them. The best defence is an offence. What are your boundaries? Do you have “1X rules & you’re out” & “3X rules & you’re out?

Learn what healthy relationships, healthy communication, healthy speech, healthy thinking & thoughts, healthy relationships look like & expect more from people. You are teaching others how to treat you all the time. How do you want people to treat you? #boundaries #staysafe