Dudes who are feeling "afraid to even date now!", you're late to the party. I've been "afraid" most of my adult life, not because I expect that I'm going to be accused of assault, but because I am afraid I am going to hurt or scare someone without meaning to. 1/n
You aren't a rapist? Great! That's not enough. Don't do things that a rapist would do. Don't create situations where a person you like is afraid. Do your share of the work in making people feel safe. 2/n
Don't trap women. No standing between her and the door. Going for a drive is a terrible first date. Give her an escape path. 3/n
Don't hit on women who can be fired or punished for telling you to fuck off. Leave your bartenders and baristas alone. She is being nice because she's paid to be. 4/n
If you're walking behind a woman at night, cross the street before you pass her. You may not mean harm, but to her you look like the rapist from every safety video she's watched. 5/n
Don't ask women for information that can be used to stalk them. Don't ask where their office is, for an exact home address, which gym they go to when. This is all trusted info she can volunteer of she trusts you. Until then, don't ask. 6/n
You are not entitled to a woman's time. If she's reading a book, has headphones on, she has the right to *not talk to you*. 7/n
No one wants to see your penis without asking. I don't care how great you think it is. 8/n
Beleive women. Don't victim blame. Call out other men when they pull any of this crap. 9/n
Men, we have a lot of work to do. Those of us who don't rape people have been shrugging and leaving it there. Think about your actions from not-male perspectives. Don't put yourself in situations where you scare the people you say you want to love. 10/n
Um, I don't have a Soundcloud, but if you have money to throw around, maybe send some to someone backing consent based sex ed like @NadineThornhill
