I want to unpack that for a minute, because I don’t think that’s it.
(For a treasure trove of insight on this subject, please follow @C_Stroop. Many threads there worth investigating)
These women know who their men are. They live with the aggression & vindictiveness & disrespect. It’s often directed AT them.
Their dinner table conversations are full of references to women who are sluts, or mean, or uppity. Women who are 'ruining' men. Believe it.
They and their daughters are hurt every DAY.
They worship a God who is personified as a omnipotent father figure who knows all, sees all, and has infinite power to punish and bless.
An authoritarian God who enforces a strict binary decision:
Don’t believe me? Don’t worship me? Burn in hell forever.
That’s the entire deal.
Their sisters prayed with them that they would find peace with His Will.
And then: they toed the line. Just as they are still checking the boxes of the white men who rule over them.
They’ve just accepted that it’s gonna hurt. And they believe that’s what they deserve, and that's what God wants. This is what we're up against.