I was shocked. I had bought this narrative & surrounded myself with ppl who reinforced it...
It shook me awake. I had to figure out how to get that. I had to get my husband on my team in the search for that.
We started ..
THAT was hard. But once we stopped doing those things, the marriage itself became easy.
The work of caring enough about someone
But I think marriage is only truly hard when one or both of you won't do that work.
Because once you're both on that page, the marriage - and being together - is wonderful.