Thread by @visakanv

I think Scott Adams’ theory of success about being in the top 10-20% of multiple fields - applies really well to dating, too

Simplified eg: it’s hard to be the smartest or fittest person in a scene, but if you’re in top 20% in both domains, you stand out

My strategy was something like

- top 10% smart
- top 10% poetic/emotive
- top 20% funny/unneurotic
- top 25% kind
- top 40% fit

First girl I dated decided to wife me

I was also

- bottom 20% disciplined
- bottom 20% academically (amongst our peer group)
- bottom 30% fashionable (at the time)
- bottom 20% in romantic gestures

Etc etc

Would’ve been impossible to be top 50% in everything, and even then would not have gotten dates anyway

And it’s interesting to consider how you can flip these attributes

I can think of some of my peers who were disciplined + academically successful + good with gestures, and they are happily married to people who would never have dated me

Specialize and find your weirdos