The source of men's sexual scarcity thinking is rooted in how we raise our own sons. In an ironic twist, we think too much gentle platonic touch will ruin our boys; will make them too needy; will make them weak. /1
“Are we going there? Will I get there? Can we have sex, yet?” Many men are trapped in an epidemic of sexual scarcity thinking. The moment we have sex, we are on to advocating for the next opportunity. /12
Boys and men cut off from platonic affection and contact are cut off from all of the emotional and relational connection that comes along with that kind of contact. The absence of platonic touch is a marker for the absence of much more. /26