I literally have no election stress tonight. Met with a senior dean & a director to advocate for a peer. Wrote a 4 page executive report with 20+ references that was just emailed to 6 top brass leadership. No, it is not about loyalty. It is about correct application of standards
#MedTwitter is likely aware of my propensity to write detailed reports with a multitude of references emailed directly to deans. If there is a top, and if I am a tuition paying student or even just a concerned citizen, you’re gonna hear from me if someone is misusing rules.
My great grandfather, a Justice in the High Court, figuratively threw the book at a white barrister in Colonial times, telling him to learn the law. For standing up to a white British man as a brown Muslim man in colonial times he got the title Khan Bahadur. (Brave)
And my mom, as a new immigrant & grad student, disagreed with rules denying Urdu or Farsi as relevant to her study of English Literature, forcing her to use credits to take French or German.
She wrote a report to the administration and got the rules/decision overturned.
I never lost a hearing when I represented the Commonwealth. I came armed with a mountain of evidence and I could bury a pair of lawyers, all without an attorney by my side. Their cockiness soon became scrambling then ad hominem. All signs of trying to evade impending defeat.
I love being sized up wrong and underestimated.
It is my secret weapon.
Overconfidence + underprepared + thinking one can bully or twist narrative or manufacture optics out of accurate and precise application of standards is a recipe for losing your case.
I was a Girl Scout too.
Always prepared.
Fearless.
Stepping outside one’s comfort zone/accept no boundaries
I know that there is the anti-leader leader concept (not using titles, wearing hoodies and such) particularly in the tech & entrepreneurship world. At the same time, those are spaces that are not necessarily as woman or BIPOC friendly historically so the "casual" can be a trap
implicit, or frankly, explicit biases have not gone away. Except professionalism is also a trap - it is well documented in peer-reviewed publications and I've repeatedly notice with how multiple "professionalism" faculty fail to examine embedded biases & cultural chauvinism
In tightly controlled spaces there is a so-called right/wrong way to have one's hair, with "wrong" including natural hair if one is "ethnic", women must wear skirts and pantyhose automatically adding distracting details (do I have a run in my stocking? am I sitting okay?) &such
I'm always amused by sales or marketing or communication professionals attempt to sell to me how I need their help, how I need their protection, etc or it could be "mutual benefit" to connect. Oh, then what is your rank for what you are paid to do and attempting to charge me for?
Why am I able to outpace, by far, sales, marketing, and communication professionals? What is it they are teaching you wrong in school and/or you are unable to apply for success in real life?
Likely, the answer is: authenticity
Lived experience
Open communication
Values
Yes, metrics matter
Yes, reputation needs to be protected
But as we see happening with Dr. Fauci, those who wish to suppress science-based information (that they find embarrassing or wish to hide) will malign the person speaking about verifiable facts. Blowback does happen.
Mea culpa: Rulebreaker/boundary-defier of the cookie-cutter #marketing best practices (yet am a top 1% influencer status for #healthcare so 🤷♀️) yes, I admit we have a range of logos within a color family. If you are bothered, I invite you accept a diversity of colors ;-)
Much of this is familiar: "This made me that Black, gay resident once again. The same attending ..called me by the wrong name.. confusing me for the only other Black resident in our program,,When I approached him about it privately, he 'didn’t want to speak about this.'"
I have never been in a setting where my name was correctly used without my being interchangeable with another BIPOC. Every single workplace, I am not me. My name is not mine. My identity is not mine. It is whatever others need from me that moment for their work/metrics.
What #Blackexcellence experiences on top of what all BIPOC experience, of being an object, token, dehumanized, is the long history of legal dehumanization through slavery that remains embedded today in institutions and cultures. That's why #BLM has to be said specifically.
So true. The #pandemic has revealed whose inability to cope with disruption & loss of (false sense of) control results in their need to assert online control of others
I see so much uptick of low value & harmful policing behaviors. It is waste
I fully believe that those who harm others through control are suffering themselves. Most forms of abuse, including overcontrol and overpolicing are from own anxiety, fear, inability to feel safe -> control over others
But instead of spreading fear, could focus on solutions
It requires a tolerance of risk and growth mindset to thrive and stay creative in chaos, disruption
..amid constant failure of what should be trusted systems and authorities
Those who experienced the least harm from (even then harmful) systems are the most unable to cope now
Stuff like this makes my day.. week
Teach girls & women to try & fail
Be brave, not perfect
(Women have joined the team then had to step away. I support their having tried)
I hate saying no
So if I could not support her to participate, created an alternate opportunity
This is the @TEDTalks by @reshmasaujani ted.com/talks/reshma_s… - as a South Asian woman I especially love this as both heritage & "model minority' teaches perfection (which is a fear-based goal, fear of failure with metrics that are external rather than internal mission/goals)
It is my personal mission to teach girls & for model for
women not to allow anyone to box them in or define the boundaries of their talent, achievement, humanity
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Be messy
Try & fail
Start something & leave it unfinished
Write code that does not run
Be "too"..
..big
..much