1. APOLOGIES long and TRIGGERing thread.
Murder/ psychopathy/ #familyviolence

“He told me I wasn’t going to be with anyone else he told me I was going to die”
Police / lawyers think these things are said in anger or frustration. They tell victims to “block him” or “report him”
2.But victims recognise the PSYCHOPATH they live with. They’re not wrong. They know him. They wish they were wrong & are forever trying to talk themselves into believing it’s their fault. To imagine otherwise is even more horrific @CCCBuryStEd @thecrimeanalyst @JaneCaro
3. They are not exaggerating. They are not neurotic or crazy.
These women have lived day in & day out with them & know what he is capable of.
If she fears her life- she is correct in her assessment. It should never, EVER be dismissed. @MFWitches @earthma23 @davtw2 @FeeBenson
4. She has seen what he will do to a child. His own child. She knows life holds NO VALUE to him. Including his own. She is well aware he does NOT fear jail-she knows he will sooner kill himself than lose this battle. So don’t tell her to block him.Or leave him if there is nowhere
5. for her to go & we intend to cont to cut safe housing. Don’t lead these women & children to their death. We need to stop pretending our legal system is going to provide protection from monsters like Edwards till we are ready to address the systemic problems w/I our police &
6. our judiciary we must also make our report writers accountable-just like every other professional And the same with independent children’s lawyers who are aware of their immunity.@DeanRosario @HDouglasLaw @thecrimeanalyst @ranzcp @APsychologists @angelo_virgona @AbigailBoydMLC
5. There needs to be assessment of the children long after orders made. Men describing women as ‘crazy’ need to be seen as red flags. It’s the oldest trick in an abusers book. Engage family violence @ManjulaOConnor @sally_stevensxn @RonniSalt @earthma23 @BethanyinCBR @Kuljeeta4
6. Survivors & experts at all levels. There are many more things we can do to improve this system. Sitting back& waiting for the next #FAMILICIDE is not acceptable @GeraldineBilst1 @Drhutch2011 @yabbtopia @shaunwarnock_sw @drlouisehansen @LynAnge11 @TheblueTake @age_no_barrier

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Thread. His adult daughter was terrified of him. When her house was listed for sale he deliberately booked an inspection so he could intimidate her walking through her home. He turned up at his ex wife’s yoga class, where she saw him behind her in the mirror. #coercivecontrol
These are examples coercive control. Coercive control is a legal form of abuse.
When Olga reported him turning up to the class the police said she was trying to get “advantage in the family court.” @custodypeace @MattsJane @CCCBuryStEd @moonscapecat @LeighGoodmark @melwojtas
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1. This is completely normal in #trauma!Laying down memory is a complex process & so is “retrieving” memories.
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2. those memories can come flooding back DECADES later.
Whilst devastating, on some level it can make things make so more sense, but also sometimes add to feeling of confusion as to whether event really happened.
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Thread 1. OK It would be Great if ppl understood that when a person is assaulted or under threat, particularly children or other vulnerable-they go into a ‘freeze mode’. It is a well-described SURVIVAL technique- to dissociate from reality in order to maximise chances of survival
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Family violence & sexual assault is Traumatic. There is overwhelming evidence of long term social & health impacts. We are increasingly aware of the huge no’ s of ppl living in our community with the scars of abuse. It remains unbelievable to me though that there is no
publicly funded service that deals specifically wt the mental & physical impacts of abuse in one safe venue with trauma informed staff. It’s been an honour to work wt
@sally_stevensxn @wtrcillawarra & an amazing team inc @trish_acullen @mike_salter to try & make this vision
a reality..we are now one step closer now with the ‘Federal Inquiry into Family, Domestic and Sexual Violence’ released today with Recommendation 77 supporting the Trauma Recovery Centre! This is so exciting & I hope there is follow through with this recommendation. #PTSD
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1/ Empathy is not an intellectual or planned response.
Empathy is an emotion..a recognition of pain in another person that comes from feeling that pain within yourself.
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You can teach someone to intellectually
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“..your responses have been at best inadequate, & at worst, served to compound the trauma of so very many people.
 
You have not listened, you have not shown respect, you have not acted to protect anyone other than yourself in pursuit of your own political self-interest ..”
“If you cannot judge for yourself whether he is a fit and proper person to serve, then ask someone better qualified and less personally conflicted to do so. A reshuffle simply isn’t enough.”
If you have lost confidence in this government, SIGN this petition and call a general election NOW.
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