TW: Rape. Sex buyers break women's boundaries all the time by wearing them down till she stops fighting back. It's still #rape. Just because she didn't kick and scream doesnt make it consensual. We still have a lot of education to do as smn on Insta is defending this rapist.
It's still seared into people's minds including this buyer and his defender that silence is consent (even though she clearly said "No!" twice). It's one of countless examples of how women raped by sex buyers know they won't get justice so they resign to the violence inflicted.
This woman speaks little German and is likely an economic refugee. You really think she's just gonna report him to authorities? She's busy trying to make ends meet. She's got no proof of a crime. She recieved money for it. Half of Germany thinks she's a nympho or greedy foreigner
Most women can't defend themselves against most men on physical terms. This guy is on top of her & inside her. Pro industry advocates will have you believe she should do better screening and learn skills to trick/persuade him into condom use - completely detached from reality...
The reality of the sex trade for the 80+% of impoverished migrants (& its not much better for many citizens too!) is trying to make enough to feed her family /satisfy her pimp. You try to avoid violent men but you can't fully. You then try to avoid them getting even more violent
Women outside the sex trade have their boundaries disrespected and violated all the time. Its so hard for us to stand up for ourselves or to report to authorities. Now imagine that being 10x harder when youre a woman in prostitution and this happens to you every few weeks or more
To make a long story short... How many rape victims told their rapist right after the #rape: "You just raped me?" I would wager basically 0 because it would be incredibly dangerous to do so! He's already proven his complete disrespect, you wouldn't risk making him mad.

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20 Mar
For 3 years I've wanted to write about why men murder women in the sex trade. I've been waiting for the publication of a study on the subject in Germany that finally come out a month ago. Stay tuned for my summary. Its painful but necessary to know who, when, where and why.
The state sanctioning the sex trade does not prevent lethal violence against women in #prostitution. From hands-off essentially decriminalized Berlin to the nearly prohibitionist German South, here is who is killing whom, when, where, how, and why. ellyarrow.wordpress.com/2021/03/29/who…
Murder in the sex trade is about as old as the industry itself. In Germany paying for sex has rarely ever been expressly illegal, yet sex buyers make up more than half of perpetrators (a lot of serial killers are buyers). It's not illegality of the trade that makes men kill women Image
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3 Mar
Doubles standard at German Aids Aid who have worked alongside the pro prostitution lobby: They will promote condom use in a prostitution context in South Africa naming sex buyers as the cause of high infection rates but campaign against mandatory condom use in brothels in Germany
It boggles the mind and throws dirt on the painful history of the AIDS epidemic which was falsely labelled a "gay disease". If you want to destigmatize people living with HIV/AIDS and people in prostitution you wouldnt promote people playing Russian roulette with their health.
Fun fact: New Zealand has had rules about condom use for both parties in prostitution as well as brothels displaying signs promoting condom use since it introduced fully state sanctioned prostitution. Germany took 15 years to realize this was necessary after introducing its law.
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1 Mar
Thread on what #sexbuyers say about Asian women in the legal German sex industry. If we leave out the #sextrade from our critique of #racism, we will never dismantle it. #StopAsianHate. TW: Racism, misogyny, violence against women. (All images are stock photos) Image
„Basically I like the chinky eye type best. Love looking into her eyes while she’s blowing me." - German #sexbuyer. dieunsichtbarenmaenner.wordpress.com/2018/11/19/i-l… #StopAsianHate Image
„I find fully shaven women quite boring, so I’m practically only bedding Asians at this point. Amongst the Asians, you find the highest number of all-natural pussies. Besides that, Asian women know how to spoil a man.“ - German #sexbuyer dieunsichtbarenmaenner.wordpress.com/2018/11/29/asi… #StopAsianHate Image
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10 Feb
⚠️⚠️⚠️Trigger warning for what I'm about to say - please mute if you'd like to avoid hearing about extreme #violence #vaw and #misogyny on your timeline. ⚠️⚠️⚠️
When people advocate for legal #prostitution I think they have a much too vanilla view of what it is men pay women to do or endure. For all the times' abolitionists are called "prudes", it's really a lot of "sex pozzies" who don't understand the extent of what they're endorsing.
Yes, a lot are just your regular father-of-two cheating on his wife or angry over a divorce looking for a woman maybe his own age, but usually younger, for some usual oral on him, then vaginal in various positions, it's over when he orgasms. Bad enough, but it gets worse.
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9 Feb
If you look into the subject of #ComfortWomen you'll find victims who were kidnapped minors, others deceived yet others previously in prostitution knowing they'd be entering a brothel. This doesnt make the latter group immune to the extreme violence & exploitation that occurred.
On the one hand definitive victims of military sexual slavery are being labelled "sex workers" on the other hand the harmful myth is propagated that such brutal military brothels didnt particularly harm women who were "experienced hardened sex workers". That is dehumanizing.
The exact same dynamics play out in modern prostitution: Those groups are all in the modern brothels next to each other and all subjected to the same brutal market forces, at risk due to the presence of organized crime and facing danger and abuse by the same men who pay for it.
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21 Jan
Today for the 1st time ever heard a German pro-#prostitution activist (self-identified "hobbyist dominatrix") mention the New Zealand model and saying we should adopt it because it eliminates human trafficking. No, it only eliminates human trafficking convictions. Big difference.
German's rates of convicting pimps are already continuously decreasing since we introduced our own highly deregulated liberalized model back in 2002. We went from 151 convictions in 2000 to 32 in 2011. Bureau of Criminal Investigations says convictions decreased, rates did not.
Meanwhile, New Zealand was doing the following to make it appear as though it didn't have human trafficking: They didn't have a law against domestic sex trafficking, which helped to ignore the fact that 1/3 of prostituted women were once commercially exploited girls.
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