One day my 80+ Dad showed up at my house & said, "I am not comfortable driving anymore. Here's my car. You can drive me from now on" and I did. Awhile later he said "I have been paying bills all my life, I'm tired of it. Here's my POA. You look after all that now." And I did. 1/8
It was simple. He just wanted someone else to take on the chores of life to let him enjoy his last years and I was happy to do it. I loved him and wanted him to be happy. It was no burden. 2/8
Seeing my husband debate POA with his siblings and their father, I am so grateful my Dad was proactive. He trusted me, and was happy to relinquish control. It made life so much easier for everyone. 3/8
He had as much money as he wanted to spend but I looked after all his bills. I drove him to all his appointments and outings, which was nice time spent together.4/8
He was so wise, I think. He looked at the things in his life that were giving him stress in his 8th decade and said, "screw this. Let someone else worry about all this". 5/8
And it worked. I was local and available to do it. But I love my siblings, and they could rest assured I would (and did) make sure everything was fair, as our Dad set out in his will. I was also executor. 6/8
Pre-planning makes things easier for your family. It's got very little to do with you. If you are incapacitated or dead, what do you want to happen to your stuff and assets? The only chance you have to have say in it is while you are still capable. 7/8
You could be hit by a bus tomorrow. Don't wait until you are old and infirm. Just put the paperwork in place. So it is there, ready to go when it's needed. 8/8
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