Don't remember who suggested this, but finally it's here & I'll share my thoughts

The Laws of Human Nature by @RobertGreene

#backtoreading #BooksWorthReading #books #reading #bookthread #Thread "If only we understood the roots of human behaviour" @RobertGreene
in Laws of Human Nature

Do you think we would have more protection? Against falling down or being plowed over?

#bookthread #BooksWorthReading #thread #books #Reading #relationships #humannature

Relationship building is never easy. But it's skill that can take you far.

The lack of it, ie the skill can become a noose like no other. The way you use language to put across an idea, a question, a critique shows your skill.

I feel paralysed when in community endeavours, People find it impossible to work on relationship building. Its a skill which no one gave them a TOR for.

So they fumble & stumble. They will be awkward, use direct & almost rude language & be unable to understand the insult their use of language causes.

Some golden rules

Times are extremely tough in Pakistan, especially for the daily wage earners, domestic workers, labour intensive low paid jobs.

Programs that distribute ration, pay medical bills & fee are critical subsidies.

Please reach out to support such endeavors. Ration distribution is a major exercise carried out pan Pakistan by 100s of groups, registered NGOs & individuals.

Our support makes a difference.

Reach out to old homes, orphanages, free clinics, small schools. They are always low on resources.

Raising funds for rations to be provided to 60 Christian families on Easter in Karachi

Please retweet this and call me how to support this.

Looking at my friends here to help @omar_quraishi

These are some of the #education projects that I love.

Khudkaar run by @wardahn00r
(Digital skills school in Layyah, Punjab)

@sciencefuse I'm working with them i small way to fund something I love

@atomcamp & some of its science led programs. I see what they're trying to do. The excellent experience I had early last year on @fatimarizwan led platform @airschoolonline is another education startup to keep a keen eye on.

There's @wardah 's UrduHour where she teaches diaspora children to converse in Urdu, looking to bridge the urdu/English divide

That time of year when Pakistani men show their colours in their most vilest way.

I don't know agendas, but the fact that women in most desi houses are oppressed in the same of a pseudo religious context & remain achored to a patriarchal mindset needs to be voiced.

Let us talk There will always be opinions, agendas, controversies but that doesn't take away from the systemic oppression women face daily.

At the workplace, we are sidelined, & spoken over.

We are paid less, not promoted, not given management or board seats.

We face harassment.

As a new immigrant I still view Canada with an outside in lens. I guess it takes time to fully internalise a culture, but Canada remains a mystery to me.

Could be attributed to the "timing" of our move or the unique circumstances that set in as a result of it.

#Immigration Do all immigrants feel a disconnect to Canada? The infrastructure in the bigger cities is comparable to London, the busy-ness of it all, never ending chores, weekend getaways & retirement plans.

However, this is something desi people never experience.

In other updates we have pledged to assist a young woman through her midwifery course in Karachi & will also support her younger brother's school fee.

80k was raised to support a woman blinded in an acid attack by her husband. The living quarters she is in now, broke me. Going forward we will try to support her through this tough time. Her sister is a house maid & earns 15k pm.

Will also see if she can see an eye specialist & see if theirs a way to restore some sight.

Who are these people.

Who create a vaccine & patent them, in the middle of a pandemic.

They know, production isn't enough.
That we will need vaccines to get herd immunity but they will play profit. Who are these people.

Who know that the poor live in low ventilated, crowded spaces, be in USA or Pakistan.

That the only way of survival is on daily wages of low paid work.

That vaccine first should be prioritised for them.

My beautiful Nani (sitting on right side of bride) with all her siblings & parents

A picture of countless memories & countless stories. Post partition Nana Abba (my maternal great grandfather) decided to leave their ancestral home in Shimla & moved to Lahore. He was given an evacuee property of Geeta Bhawan in Lahore. He should have claimed more but he decided this was enough for his family's needs

Was discussing office spaces in Pakistan back when I joined working.

There was a lecherous group of young men who made all women trainees feel uncomfortable.

We never complained They were about 10/12 at most, sitting in one corner of the audit room but would make each one of us uncomfortable.

They would pass crude jokes, look you over, sleazy glances & laugh in a way that you knew it was locker room talk.

We all took it in. We never once complained.

Arvi gosht in the making.

Lunch table talk is going to be interspersed with ugly stares (son), quiet resignation (husband) & whining (daughter)

What's not to like about a well made Arvi gosht.

Explain Update

The son heated leftover ravioli from dinner & had some cucumbers on the side.

The little one toasted a slice, buttered it & had it with cucumber & apple.

Yeh dunya pittal di

#arvigate

People are strange.

They hate your guts, hate you, or maybe dislike you, tolerate you for various reasons, but apna koi kaam hota hai toh forun haazir

Nice nothings & then straight to request.

I definitely an atm for everyone's social cause Why would they reach out if they disliked you so much? Shocked by someone in family who has avoided me like a curse mostly over years & especially this year over a curt censure I made for her loving food making & over sharing in a pandemic when millions lost jobs & livelihoods

People are weird & complex & conflicted. What worries me that they genuinely think they're nice, god fearing folks. And that any problems you've had with them are because of a particular situation not because of who they are.

#conflict #Hypocrisy I find this culture of self forgiving & building an excuse narrative extremely hypocritical.

Rules to live by & if you fail, you own that too:

1. You get into a contract you honour it
2. You use someone for your work, financial especially, you owe them.

#Hypocrisy #Thread