Set to work on your spiritual condition.*
Keep calling in every day until you’ve set it right.
Spiritual Condition manifests as compassion, forgiveness, empathy, gratitude, generosity. It’s not those things though. It the feeling of wholeness, safety, strength, connectedness, appreciation.
Same with bad days. “Everyone is a jerk!” “I’m so unlucky!”
This serves many purposes, mainly that your spiritual condition becomes someone else’s fault.
Study and learn from your patients.
Some have illness and pain that should crush their spirit yet there they are, asking how your day is going.
Notice the patient who apologizes for pooping in the bed as they are dying. Learn from this person. They might be dying in the physical, but their spiritual condition may be 1000x yours.
Without thinking, I started to tell her “what was wrong.” After a minute, I looked over and she had her eyes closed, nodding. A very powerful feeling come over me. Shame and ingratitude. Utter embarrassment. I stopped.
She went on to list a few basic concepts. (Things, BTW, that I repeat over and over right here like a carpenter driving a nail):
- notice your good fortune
- turn your attention toward the suffering of others
- look for places to help
- loneliness magnifies pain
- if you feel bad, stop doing the things you think make you feel better and try something new
- ignore the “rightness” of your own labels. “Friend” and “enemy” are characteristics of your mind, not of other people
If patients are your enemy, it is a symptom.
Your spiritual condition is unhealthy.
There are many cures. Some work.
Seek and suffer less.