I calmly asked him to remove his hands and step away three times.
He told me to calm down.
When I finally started yelling, he acted like I was crazy.
Like, lady coaches, amirite.
And then he lost his shit and screamed at kids and the ref and those same dads were screaming too.
I remember the moment he put his arm around me. I went absolutely stiff. He knew before I said a word that it wasn’t okay. And then he squeezed tighter as he talked over me.
But somehow I just calmly said “please don’t touch me.”
And then “I’m serious, we can talk but please take your hands off me.”
And again “I am asking you to remove your hands and take a step back.”
Then I walked away, and apologized to all my players’ parents for saying fuck.
And one of the moms said “don’t you dare apologize for anything that just happened. Being polite wasn’t working.”
God yes. This.
Don’t let anyone tell you you’re the crazy one, the emotional one, when you know damn well you’ve been holding it in for way too long.
When being polite isn’t working, it’s okay to raise your voice.