As a reader, look for that thing, ESPECIALLY when the speaker pretends it’s not there.
At best, this is often “I am upset, but I can’t *say* I’m upset so instead I will argue that this upsetting thing is empirically bad”.
This is a good reason to learn emotional skills.
It is a bad reason to pretend the emotions aren’t there.
This might only be inconvenient, except those things are made of people.
Moments after posting this, I get a link that goop has a posted an article on using gratitude to e improve your sense of well being.
A cascade of emotions follows.
* frustration - people are going to think I cribbed this
* embarrassment - not only will they think I cribbed it, they’ll think I cribbed from a very bad source.
* shame - goop is not good. Am I in sync with not good?
There are more, but that’s a nice, tight cycle.
Because something is missing: I haven’t actually *read* the article.
(Though i concede, public analysis of it has also probably helped with that)
The problem is not that I *had* those emotions. I’m not proud of them, but those are things I genuinely felt.
The problem is that I almost picked a fight with goop when goop had not picked a fight with me.