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Jared Yates Sexton
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We are one week out from the release of THE MAN THEY WANTED ME TO BE. If you like this feed, you should check it out. It's about how toxic masculinity hurts everyone, how it stalls progress, how it led to Donald Trump and this pox of mass shootings.

amazon.com/Man-They-Wante…
It breaks down how toxic masculinity is a cycle of abuse that hurts men and leads them to hurt the rest of the world. What I found in my research, the science of it, just blew me away and changed everything I thought about society.
The book lays out how American masculinity is a complete lie and how every man fails to live up to it because it's unachievable, and so they either lash out at the world, killing and assaulting, or else inevitably hurt themselves. Sometimes both.
Not to mention how toxic masculinity has led to the radicalization of insecure white men who take up assault rifles and commit mass shootings or else join a fascist organization. Honestly, it's the root of so many problems. And that radicalization is just like what ISIS does.
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Jared Yates Sexton
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I expected to get some blowback for writing about toxic masculinity and how it's led to Trump's fascism, but what I didn't expect was how angry it would make insecure men who would threaten my safety and harass me like past bullies and abusers. 1/

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What's really shocking is that these people are behaving like elementary or junior high bullies. The namecalling, the threats of violence, all of it. There's definitely a link between what those boys were going through and our current condition. It's all about insecurity. 2/
In my research what I found was that bullies were always the most insecure, that they were overperforming and seeking out victims so that no one would ever question them or their masculinity. Now, it's the same thing. You can see just desperately the harassers are trying... 3/
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Jared Yates Sexton
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Just received a really hopeful email from a reader who bought herself and her Fox News obsessed father a copy of THE MAN THEY WANTED ME TO BE. They had their first real conversation in over a decade and he admitted he’d been terrified to talk.

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So much of this current climate is wrapped up in make insecurity and Fox and Trump and Republicans are playing those insecurities for profit and power. There are so many people I meet who feel like their fathers and brothers are just hopelessly lost.
My dad was one of them. When the Iraq War was raging he was just as fascist and racist as they came. We finally talked though, and he realized he didn’t have to overcompensate or play a role any longer. He changed. Completely.
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Jared Yates Sexton
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It's important today, while we're focusing on how Republicans have just openly declared war on women, to remember the unsung enablers of this crisis: all those status-quoers who watched Trump and the GOP gain power and told everyone who would listen that nothing would change. 1/
These are the people who told everyone who was concerned about rising fascism and the decline of duty and ethics that they were worried about slippery slopes and being hysterical. They believed Trump might be abnormal, but not particularly dangerous. 2/
When it came to abortion we got a lot of these people. They were the ones who said Roe v. Wade would never be tested, who said that critics of Kavanaugh were being irrational and took him at his word that he wasn't going to overturn precedent. 3/
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Hi Corbin - thanks for your note. Here are my takes on toxic masculinity, though you are right to consult several sources; this is just a brief overview and lots of feminists are doing important writing on this topic, which is often woefully (or willfully) misunderstood. [thread]
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