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One day I will be talking about anime/manga/MTG/RPG/etc, but for the next little bit, y'all get "life skillz" Quinn.
With that sad, let's strap in.
With that sad, let's strap in.
I was looking at the sources of my resentments and stress over the last week.
Imagine my (non-)surprise when I discovered they were almost entirely internal.
My resentments and stresses resulted by the times I didn't speak up for what I wanted, and went with the flow.
Imagine my (non-)surprise when I discovered they were almost entirely internal.
My resentments and stresses resulted by the times I didn't speak up for what I wanted, and went with the flow.
I went with the flow, and guess what?
You can only flow for so long before the sediment of your own unseen desires and needs builds up and drags you down.
You can only flow for so long before the sediment of your own unseen desires and needs builds up and drags you down.
Because you didn't speak and make your needs known, no one even knows you've been dragged under.
It's not a fun place to be.
In a frantic and desperate rush, you thrash and swing and kick to get free.
It's not a fun place to be.
In a frantic and desperate rush, you thrash and swing and kick to get free.
...it's not fun for anyone.
What I realized is that the work I have remaining is to make my needs known and stand for them when they are important.
The barrier to this is that I have lacked coherent values. I can be more assertive if I don't even know what *I* want.
What I realized is that the work I have remaining is to make my needs known and stand for them when they are important.
The barrier to this is that I have lacked coherent values. I can be more assertive if I don't even know what *I* want.
My own flexibility and adaptability left me, uhmm...stretched thin (I'll see myself out, thanks).
My current work is to first reflect and define what I want and need (refining along the way), then practice asserting and advocating for them.
My current work is to first reflect and define what I want and need (refining along the way), then practice asserting and advocating for them.
The awesome thing about pushing hard for personal growth is that every wall you tear down reveals another wall behind it.
That sounds almost frustrating until you realize that beyond each wall is new territory.
Every wall you tear down expands the map of self.
That sounds almost frustrating until you realize that beyond each wall is new territory.
Every wall you tear down expands the map of self.
With new territory comes new challenge, new pain, new journeys, new joy.
Anyway, that is the shape of my mind today.
Love to you and yours.
Anyway, that is the shape of my mind today.
Love to you and yours.
