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Literally everyone I’ve ever heard/seen say/write the phrase “It’s just a joke. Don’t be so sensitive” is kind of a jerk. It’s a cop-out, a refusal to recognize harm at even the smallest level, & a type of gaslighting behavior. I refuse to be around that shit.
The more we as a culture recognize the small, everyday ways harm is perpetuated & permitted, the more we can do to stop violent & abusive habits from becoming normalized & accepted.
This isn’t to say we can’t make jokes. But we shouldn’t say anything goes because it’s labeled as a joke. We should recognize, own, & be accountable for the ways we all do harm. Dismissing of the possibility of doing harm & blaming any hurt on the hurt person is abusive.
The more we move away from violence, control, & abuse as our responses to conflict as a culture, the better off we’ll be. That doesn’t mean there will never be hurt feelings or problems, but we will deal with them differently.
