The deficits a man faces in his sexual market value colors the way he perceives women and his relationships with them. The lies he tells himself about the nature of women are motivated by his hindbrain's need to solve his problem of reproduction. His necessity becomes his virtue.
An unattractive man will cling to ideals that specifically compensate for what his hindbrain knows is his only real solution to his reproductive problem. It helps when religion or morality align with what his necessity dictates for him in the SMP.
It is difficult to get a man to understand something when his salary depends on his not understanding it. It's even more difficult when his reproductive strategy depends on him not understanding the real truths of his condition. 
Once a man builds a marriage and then a family based on this denial of his condition it's even more difficult to strip away the lies he tells himself. It's then that he seeks to affirm his life based on necessitous choices with other men in a similar state to his own.
Most men develop relationships with women not by choice, but rather by what their necessity dictates for them.
You married the single mother not by choice but because she was the most expedient way to solve your reproductive problem. Her strategy became your strategy,…
You married the single mother not by choice but because she was the most expedient way to solve your reproductive problem. Her strategy became your strategy,…
…and your sense of morality filled in all the holes in that your hindbrain was protesting against. You rationalized the need to explain it to other men and then sought their approval for the 'choice' you never really made.
Necessitous men are never free.
Necessitous women are drawn to Beta neediness as a means of solving their need for security. There is a look to that man; fat, affection starved, dutiful, styleless, tryhard, etc. that women easily read and play to.
Necessitous women are drawn to Beta neediness as a means of solving their need for security. There is a look to that man; fat, affection starved, dutiful, styleless, tryhard, etc. that women easily read and play to.
His necessitousness is an easy vulnerability to exploit because most men make their necessity a virtue. Even the most basic woman knows how to pander to that self-righteous denial of need men play with themselves.
Necessitous men are an easy mark.
Necessitous men are an easy mark.
In the internet era men can make a living promoting their necessitousness as virtue to other men. Once a woman confirms this for him it's easy to pander to in a relationship that only functionally solves her own mating strategy.
And so invested is a (Beta) man in that necessitous virtue that even when his relationship and family fail, he still clings to the idealism his need prompts him to.
