Thread by @Osi_Suave

Alot of you people are buying into that dangerous notion of "Love is not enough" to keep a marriage or a relationship and it is why most of you cant keep a relationship and your marriage is in dire straits cos you dont know what Love is.

You have been conditioned to think love is a feeling or a state of mind.

Forgetting that Love is basically a function of cognition and that if you dont love a person enough you cant even put in the work to make that relationship work..

The greatest show of love is in the quality of the sacrifices you make for the people you care about. And the perfect example of this is usually the unconditional love a responsible parent has for his or her kid..

Kids are a handful. But we love them anyway.

Through their rebellion and short comings. We love them still..

Then it's weird and funny that when love is discussed in the context of marriage or a relationship it is reduced to something as infinitesimal as feelings loool.

You think its feelings that will make a man go out to hustle everyday to put food on the table, clothes on your back and a roof over the heads of his wife and kids ?

Its responsibility. Because love is actually responsibility.

So we go around like headless chickens, looking for who will be compatible with us, who will understand us.

Because we stupidly believe in the bullshit of perfect fits and soulmates.
Forgetting that compatibility is something you build. A perfect fit is something you work on

See Love is one of the most powerful things I have ever witnessed. Because it's pure

How else do you explain the need to constantly make someone happy.. love isnt butterflies in your stomach. You probably have Ulcer.

Love is the Work you put in to make what u have last

As a Christian I understand Love from Gods perspective

He so loved the world that he gave = Love means you have to make sacrifices for the people you care about

Then in 1stCor13 God said even if you give to the poor, speak in tongues, have the gift of prophesy but have no love

You have nothing.

Meaning if we are more interested in putting up a performance but do not have love.

Then it's just a performance.

Then it goes on to say

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 

It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.
  Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth

It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

This is the bible giving us a standard. But mutiu will tell you love isnt enough and you will buy his bullshit and be equating love to be financial provision and all the other bull shit..

That verse of Ist Cor 13 was on a plaque in my parents house when I was growing up. And it was so profound and so meaningful
That love isnt what you feel
Love is what you do.
Love is who you become

Then another plaque in my mom's room read

Two cannot walk together except they agree

Adults are raised and formed differently with alot of different values and morals. So when you meet a person you cant be compatible.

You learn how to become compatible

Compatibility means you can exist without conflict.

So when people fight at the early part of their relationship they are quick to abandon ship..

Those fights are what is shaping you to key into that man or that woman.

Those fights are what will make you become compatible

Because you people are raised differently so you will have to come to a place of sacrifice in love to be able to understand and walk together.

You dont become compatible from the jump.

Compatibility is a journey not a destination

Always remember that Love is all you need

Love isnt mind games or manipulation
Love isnt taking people for granted
Love isnt waiting for who will call first
Love is responsibility and love is action and sacrifice
Love is knowing u have an obligation to make this person happy

The vows people take in church are simple yet very deep

God is very intentional
It says for Richer for Poorer alot of people will argue that they wont be poor bla bla

Forgetting you might be one disaster away from losing everything. So if that happens will u still stay ?

In Sickness and in health!

Meaning will you up and leave if your partner suddenly becomes sick and it overwhelms you?

That's why you have to love someone unconditionally with you add ons like I Love her fine face, her big yansh or her vagina.

To have and to hold and Forsaking all others

To stay married to you till death do us part

See ehn love and marriage are not for people who dont have the mental capacity to process what it truly stands for

If you dont understand unconditional love. Then pls dont get married