Thread by @Osi_Suave

I think why you lot have problems with people you date us cos you ignore the signs and most people are getting relationship advise off social media. Forgetting that love and relationships no be one size fits all..

Basic communication, sincerity and the ability to resolve issues without Ego will go a long way to keep yall together

But everything is just all over the place. So it always baffles me how adults cant communicate..

Person go dey around you dey press phone. But as soon as them comot ur ends them go use 5 hrs reply your good morning

Cos the twitter mummy or daddy they follow has tweeted if you reply messages on time it shows ure desperate lmaooo..

Alot of babes when I dey try move to

Once you hit me with slow replies and dead responses I dey pack my shit up quick.

I dont have the time.

I wont have the time for half ass energy..

Alot of men no get self respect or dignity.

So because the babe get big yansh or she fine you go dey chop shit steady

Forgetting that you sef na catch.

One of the things I miss about being in a relationship is having someone to talk to about everything.

Not the dates
Not the sex.

Our bond has to permeate regular shit.

How a person was raised will have a lasting effect on how they love.

Based on examples from their folks and the bond they have with their siblings and friends.

People underestimate peace of mind. If you cant have peace of mind in a relationship then what are you looking for there.

If everything is quarell
Every tiny thing leads to a misunderstanding

Pls pack your bag and go

Alot of people look for the wrong things when they choose to fall in love.

Chief on this list is material things

So they pick people who are good for their bodies and bad for their spirit..

I was raised to be content with whatever my folks gave me.

Which is why whatever I cant afford i no dey lust after am.

I can be happy with the tiniest of things. Because what will draw me to you is what you do for my spirit over anything.

That mentality of I need to be taken care of. I would rather cry in a Bentley than in a Keke

But at what cost?

See no matter how much you want to find happiness in material things. When you sleep at night and you have stripped ur self bare of everything. You will long for..

... Something deeper

Something that fills that void you feel deep down.

That is why I dont attach my happiness to any material thing. Cos it can go at anytime.

The hallmark of a human being is the ability to constantly adapt to whatever.

For a while I used to have a checklist for any babe I would want to date

She gats fine
She gats get job
She gats dey independent
She gats come from good family

Then one day it hit me.

I'm basing my forever on things that can change just like that

Then my list changed

Now all I am looking for is a person that is Kind.

That's all.

A kind person will feed your spirit

See there is a glow you will get when you feel it deep down that someone loves you no buts no ifs. .

Then look for people who will love u on their own without side talk from anyone.

Alot of people dont know that the people they ask for relationship advise are jealous of what you have..and want you to be miserable like them

If you cant make your own decisions when it comes...

To love and all then maybe you shouldn't be dating in the first place

Lastly alot of you short change yourself when you meet people who are good for you and u fuck it up..

Firstly no human being has every thing ure looking for. So las las we all settle.

The human mind is like a machine that adapts and works with presets

Once you have been exposed to a certain level of care and kindness. Your mind adapts and makes it a standard of behaviour you will expect from your future partners.

So when you dont get it you find yourself going from person to person looking for what might never come around

That's why you hear people saying. I have been single for years since my ex.

It's not choice in most instances

It's just that they are already use to a certain standard and subconsciously they push away people who wont measure up.