RSD is not a disorder or diagnosis. It is a phenomenon that happens to people with a long history of being invalidated and rejected, people with #complexTrauma, people with certain #mentalHealth conditions, or people with a neurological predisposition.
RSD is common among #Neurodivergent folk, especially for #ADHDers, and can be a result of wiring and a history of being rejected. (Alt text added to images)
RSD is like the name implies a very overwhelming fear of and reaction to real, feared, or perceived rejection. When people have lived a life of being invalidated, RSD is borne from the accumulated weight of those rejections.
People who experience RSD can get stuck in an insidious cycle where they are starting with a history of rejection so they become a people-pleaser and have a hard time saying no. But they take on so much, they hit #burnout and can’t meet demands— which leads to more rejections.
People who experience RSD mast isolate themselves because they internalize the shame of being rejected and avoid relationships and commitments for fear of further rejection.
RSD thrives in uncertainty. Not knowing what another person is thinking or how they will react leaves a person who experiences RSD fearing the worst.
RSD can feel like a spiral of negative thoughts that continue until the person is given assurance that they have not been rejected.
Look for future articles about RSD and how to help yourself overcome rejection sensitivity. It should be noted that some people prefer the phrase rejection sensitivity over RSD.
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Connie had bought into the toxic and ableist narrative of scarcity mindset. It is based on the narrow view of disability that means people are disabled based on how easy disability is to see from the outside.
Connie believes there is a very narrow way to be disabled, and when someone isn’t disabled the way that her child is, then they are a threat to the scarce resources her child may have access to. This is partially true. Resources are hard to obtain if you don’t seem obvious enough
If you have basic motor control, can speak fluently, can read, and you can answer basic questions about yourself, then you can work in the eyes of the state. This isn’t what prevents most autistic people from being able to maintain a job, though, or from being self reliant.
How do you feel about being tagged in a comment thread on twitter to have someone say something along the lines of “This person you follow is a problem and I hope you’ll do the right thing,” meaning to unfollow. Is it coercive or helpful?
Frankly, I hate it. I am not following a few thousand of my closest friends. I follow people because they said an interesting thing one time and maybe it’ll happen again, or I liked their profile picture, or I just hit “follow back” because I do that. I mainly follow autistic ppl
But mostly, Twitter puts the same few people in my feed over and over, and it’s not even always people I follow. What’s even the point of followers?
Let's look at the harm of not listening to activists. From this platform, we have been talking about the injustices in Virginia Beach against neurodivergent and Black residents. We have dedicated a large amount of our resources and time to focusing on Virginia Beach.
On neuroclastic.com/freematthewrus…, we have highlighted-- solely using evidence from the prosecutor's office and @VBPD, the glaring human rights violations and mismanagement of handling Matthew Rushin's case.
We highlighted the injustices that happened to Champ Turner, a Black, undiagnosed Autistic father who was attacked by a 400 white man, got away, called 911, and was charged with and convicted of the same crime as Matthew Rushin neuroclastic.com/freechampturne…
I was so bummed by #SocialStories that gaslight #ActuallyAutistic kids that I made one that is not traumatic. It’s for ALL kids because it’s not necessary or healthy for minority groups to assimilate against their wishes and neurology. Alt text added to each image. 10 slides
I want to apologize for my responses to the Sia movie. Nonspeakers had replied, but I didn't see it. It was erasing their input by asking people to listen to them. I also should have used my personal account and not the publication account. (cont)
My personal perspectives are very affected by my experiences & are not universal among our contributors. I am really sad for all the constant pain & erasure & misrepresentation autistic people experience. I definitely don't ever want to invalidate any of that. We deserve better.
I (Terra Vance) will do better to use my personal account to respond to things that are not an issue that is pretty universal among our contributors and apologize for not doing that. I made mistakes and missed things that were relevant to inform a full and fair reaction.
I want to clarify a few points about my thread about the Sia movie because I think in my long thread, I still wasn't clear enough on a few points. I'll try to condense them to one thread at a time.
1. I wanted the point of the thread to be about how we as a community were addressing the issue was often using talking points and language that doesn't reflect the best language for nonspeaker rights.
2. Many of the things said about Sia were things that are tacitly ableist and can cause harm.